on heroin. I got her benefits sorted out early last year but her head is so messed up she doesnt no what to do.Iam married with a little girl nearly three i have been with my husband 6 years and married for nearly 4 years he is very bad with me beats me degrades me and the rest and my mum refuses to come to my home he goes funny with me when i see her. I dont no my dad and I am an only child. my mum has 13 brothers and sisters and not one of them have ever helped most of them have never wanted to no me has I am mixed race the other half are drug addicts or alcholics with there own problems. L ast time i saw my mum I said I will get her sorted out if its the last thing I do but I have not got a clue how to but I will try and try until my mum is happy in her own home with money to live on it is alot worse then how i have tried to explain PLEASE HELP.
2007-03-02 05:38:03 · 9 answers · asked by Tasli 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If I could say something that would make everything instantly better for you, I would. Unfortunately the real world doesn't operate that way.
Firstly, you need to get yourself away from that pitiful excuse for a man you call "husband". REAL men don't behave this way.
I don't know where in the UK you are, but the links I'm providing should help. They may even be able to help your mum, or give you advice on how she can be helped.
Believe me, if I could help you both directly, I would.
Please, use the links below. If you need someone to talk to or anything else, just email me. And please, get away from this "man".
Good luck.
2007-03-02 06:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by Paul The Rock Ape 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, sweetie, the very first thing you need to do is get away from your husband. You sound like you're under a lot of stress, and he's probably at the root of it. Take your daughter and go live with a friend or at a shelter.
Next, find your mother and put her in a rehabilitation center. She's got a drug problem and she needs help with it.
After your mum is safe in someone's care, you need to file for divorce. You can be arrested for kidnapping if your husband gets to a lawyer first, so make haste, love. You need to look in the yellow pages for a public defendent and make sur eyou tell the complete truth about your situation. There is a way out of this, and you will find it.
Contact your mum's siblings ((the non-drug-addict ones, please)) and force them to help you out. They are your family, and they have a responsibility to at least your mother.
And last, don't feel like you need to devote all your energy to your mum. You need to save some for yourself and your daughter. And I know how important it is to you to keep your mum safe and healthy, but you need to get yourself safe and healthy as well, love.
2007-03-02 05:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by Chelsea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot walk the way for another human being. Yes, you are responsible person and will try your best but as long as your Mum don't have her own will for changing things trust me you will go in circles all over again and again... Sometimes we have to be a bit harder in life towards anything and faced it with understanding that lots of stuff can be improved but also lots of it is out of your power to change. Good Luck and Be Strong
2007-03-02 05:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by Everona97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to help your self first! sorry for your troubles but don't let anything keep you down. everyone has problems so you are not alone I hope you can find some straight to love your self enough to get on the right path of self help There are alot of bad men out there but there are probably more good ones and life is to short to be unhappy and drugs are evil and addicts are a wast of oxygen! you will never be able to help her sorry but if you try vary hard maybe just maybe you could help yourself sometimes you need to let go.
2007-03-02 07:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by jeff i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems you both need a fresh start away from these men!! you are not there to be treated like a punch bag i think you need to sort your own problems out 1st then help your mum!
why dont you both go togther to a womens home and get help there and that way you can keep an eye on your mum to keep her away from drugs.
2007-03-02 05:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by MICHELLE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try and get to the citizens advice bureau if you can, it's completey confidential and they will give you advice on everything you have mentioned i.e. refuges, applying to be homeless for the council etc. they'll even sort out your mums benifits for you too...and you musn't forget yourself in all this!! think of number one first, you need to get rid of this man and find somewhere else to live for you and your daughter, somewhere safe and somewhere wear you can get your own poor head sorted out before you start trying to help your mum....the best of luck to you x
2007-03-02 07:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by sausagejockey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phone Jeremy Kyle? Get your mom into a drug rehab program?
I think YOU are a fantasic girl for CARING so much about her.
& yeh, do everything you can, but not so you take your eye off keeping your life together...
XXX
2007-03-02 09:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont take to much on yourself there is help available for you as well dont try and sort all alone
2007-03-02 23:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by dream theatre 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
phew....and I thought I had problems.
2007-03-02 05:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋