do u think it's possible to have a boyfriend and only see him once or twice a week?

Question

could it go on like that forever or do you think he's want something else?the thing is I want to spend most time with my mother who's ill and alone, my father died a year ago

Answer 1

I think it depends... My fiance is a touring musician, so he's out of the country anywhere from 2 to 8 months out of the year...think about how military wifes handle their men being gone, away from both them and their children, for years at a time. I think your situation is a delicate one because your mother is ill and she obviously needs you right now, if he's a good man he'll stick with you and give you the support you need ...good luck
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Answer 2

I would say no. Because too much time in between visits you start losing a connection with that person. I would say to stick around with your mother for awhile. It sounds like you both need each other right now and little time for a relationship that you can put a lot of energy into =) It's not a selfish thing or a bad thing, it's the right thing to do! Best wishes!

Answer 3

With what you are going through, there should be no question about it! First of, you should commended for you being closer to home during this time of need. Your priorities are perfect. Second, if he wants to show his true love for you, then he will understand the circumstances and will only miss you and love you more!

When I was dating my gf (now my wife), we were going through an LDR (long distance relationship) as well. I would only be able to see on weekends since our jobs only allow so. The distance only strengthens the love and test our devotion to one another. The bond that grows from that allowed us to love one another deeper and thus allowed us to marry (and remain married for 12+yrs now).

Never change the person that you are. You have a good head and a wonderful heart. If the guy cannot see that in you, then they are not the one meant for you. There's always obstacles and tests in any relationship and I truly feel you are passing them all with flying colors!

Good luck and I hope all goes well back home as well. =)

Answer 4

Oh, yes - once again, it's not the quantity of time you spend together, it's the quality of time. For the past two years, my BF has been 2,000 miles away and we only get to see each other every few months for a week or so. It's rough, at times, but each of us cherishes what little time we do have together and, in a way, it makes us appreciate each other that much more. Like you, one day things will change and we'll get to spend more time together, and we look forward to that instead of dwelling on what little time we have now...

Good luck! (And I think it is wonderful that you give so much care and love to your mother...)

Answer 5

my boyfriend is in the army [where i come from, all males have to serve two years in the army] which means that he's gone all week and i only see him on weekends, if at all. not more than once a week, sometimes not at all.

it's hard sometimes, but it makes those once a week dates so much more special, and it extends the honeymoon phase, because for the first few months it still seems a bit of a novelty when you see each other. it has pros and cons, but i somehow think it might be better this way. makes the relationship stronger!

and it's really sweet you're putting your time aside for your mom.

Answer 6

hahaha... I have a husband that I only see 2-3 times a week... It works out great. But we live together. I work days and go to school at nights, and he works 2-whenever he gets off... So we dont see eachother unless he is off and I dont have school at the same time. We get along great, we actually have the best relationship I've ever been in. But the key is to not be needy or jealous. If I was needy or jealous, then this definitly couldnt work. Good luck

Answer 7

I definitely think it is.
I only get to see my boyfriend on Sundays because he's a school teacher in a town that's 45 minutes away. He comes home on Fridays and crashes early, then works all day Saturdays planning for the next week.
The only time I get to see him more is if he is on school break, and even then it's not more than three times a week. It's sucks, but we have a pretty strong relationship.
I don't blame you for wanting to spend more time with your mum, just make sure that you're still spending time with your boyfriend and that you're taking time for you so you don't get burnt out.

Answer 8

Well it could go on forever but I would think that if you only see once in awhile then you guys would start to drift apart. I guess it's totally up to you. If your ok with this kind of relationship then stay with him but if not maybe it's time you moved on and found someone was more patient.

Answer 9

I saw a boyfriend once a week for 3 yrs and it wasn't a problem.
Your mums ill and she has to be your priority if your boyfriend doesn't understand that then he's no good for you and you would be better off getting rid of him.
You only get one mum and mum is the one person you can always rely upon to do what is best for you

Answer 10

If he loves you enough then he should understand you and be by your side and go with your wishes to see him on your terms right now.will it last? well like i said he loves you then it will work, but don't know the forever part. Also he shouldnt want something else either right now in your life. he should bear with you through this time.