is this 'forbidden' love?

Question

i am a girl, and i love my best friend like a man loves a woman. problem is, she's a girl, too. i am not a lesbian but i find myself thinking about her in the morning, afternoon and evening - everday! i don't know how she feels for me, though. do you think this is a "forbidden" love? should i tell her my feelings? or will it ruin the friendship we have?

Answer 1

I love my best friend with all my heart. I'm a girl and he is a guy, and at first I thought I was in love with him and wanted a relationship but as time went on and I found someone else I realized I loved him like family, but none the less, I still love him more than anyone else in the world.

I believe in having no regrets, If you love someone and you never tell them you will always be wondering what could be. Nothing is easy. You have to give it a shot.

However if you get jealous when she is pursuing relationships with other people, and you find her attractive maybe you should figure out yourself first.

I really don't think we get to choose who we love or in what ways we are going to love them.

Answer 2

Don't tell her unless you know she is a lesbian. It will ruin the friendship otherwise. And what do you mean you are not a lesbian? Are your thoughts sexual? Then you may be on the way to being a lesbian. Which is fine, that's your business. But don't ruin your friendship, if you're going through something right now then you may need her as a friend rather than an experiment.

Answer 3

If you don't tell her then you will suffer all the time and that feeling might errupt one day and ruin the friendship. If you tell her, then she might push you away and perhaps not see you as a friend but rather as a threat to her sexuality and image.

You did not tell us if you feel attraction toward men and other women. You know best your tendencies and you will see further on how they evolve. Once I met a girl who had a boyfriend, then a girlfriend and then a boyfriend again...

What you need to do is not to supress your feelings. They are you. If you want to tell her what is bothering you, do it very cautiously. I think you could try. She might accept you. True friendship is not something that is lost because of true feelings. Even if she does run away for a while, she should come back. Tell her.

Answer 4

First of all, it will definately change your friendship. You might want to take a step back and ask yourself how your self esteem is. If you are really leaning on this person to prop yourself up, you are asking a lot of a person who may not feel quite they could live up to that responsibility. Maybe you could discuss with her that you have this strong need to feel loved and accepted by her (in a non-sexual way) and you really need her in your life as a good friend. It might be that she is more guarded in showing herself to you than you her. Talk to her about it, but ask open ended questions. It is better to err on the side of caution than risk it all and get hurt. As for the sexual part of your feelings, that is more of a tough one. Do you equate love with sex and vice versa? Can you love her without sex if she is not lesbian? What if you are not and she is, how will that hurt her down the line when you decide it is not for you but you still love her? Good luck!

Answer 5

if she is lesbian than I think you should share your feelings if not I am not sure what would be best if you want to keep the friendship you might have to just keep it to your self not knowing how your friend feels about being open or not would help

Answer 6

If you fantasize about sex with a woman, you have lesbian tendencies, you just haven gone all the way yet.

Answer 7

for me, it'd ruin the relationship so I would say it is forbidden fruit.

Answer 8

You'll ruin your friendship

Answer 9

if i was you i would keep this to my self maybe think about it then talk 2 ur freind

Answer 10

tell her u think ur bi,and does she ever feel that way.take it from there. gl