2007-03-02 04:50:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We're assuming he has the money and/or credit, right?
Tell him that you would like the privacy and that it's hurting your relationship.
It's nice having a place of your own. My boyfriend and I got an apartment about 2 1/2 months ago, and it's nice to be able to set our own rules, and we love the privacy.
2007-03-02 04:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by Moon Crystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right after he said “I do”, he made a commitment to you and to himself to be the man of the house. You two are now a new family.
To avoid conflicts, you two should move to a new house of your own. Is not the first time the matrimony goes to hell because the couple didn’t move out to their own place.
Now, you said “your husband refuses”. Is he buying the house with what was his money? Or is both of you? After you got married, you also became one, so whatever was his money and yours, it now belongs to both of you. So is both of you who are now buying the house. Make sure you two know this and agree with the concept, otherwise, I see lots of financial trouble coming up soon in your matrimony.
If you guys can afford a new house, meaning you have the money or good jobs that can be reliable to pay the mortgage, then you have to discuss this with your husband and make clear that you two are now a new family that needs to think to get a home, a house of your own.
Now, if the problem is money, then you might want to consider to rent first, maybe a small place. Living at your parent’s or his parent’s should be consider temporary, and I mean temporary as not more than 6 months, maybe a year if you two are saving money to buy a new house.
End of story.
If you don’t move soon, you will be jeopardizing your matrimony. Trust me, I;ve seen it, and is not a good picture.
If he refuses no matter what, then you have a big problem in your hands because you two should had discussed this BEFORE you got married. If he is a “mama’s boy” and don’t want to leave, you might have to be the one living.
Get his head straight before is too late.
Good luck.
2007-03-02 05:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you i would leave him and seperate until he can buy a house for the both of you and he needs to be able to live without mommy and daddy and start spending his life with you as his wife. If he keeps refusing then stay seperated and do not go back to him. Are his parents encouraging him to buy a house? His parents need to encourage him to move out with you and get a place for the both of you. This will be the best for your marriage. How is his credit and is he in a financial place to be able to buy a home? If his credit is not so good you can always rent.
2007-03-02 05:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you did not give details about why he wants to stay with his parents even when he is already married to you, then
I will assume that your parents-in-law are healthy and no urgent reason why you guys have to be with them?
Anyway, if that is the case, then, the two of you MUST talk about your marriage and how it would be healthy for you being a couple to live in a home by yourselves, and grow together in life.
You wouldn't be able to know the real person you are with unless you sleep under a roof with only that person, and also, how can you be intimate when you know that in the other room, his parents are there?
You can just assure him you'd visit the parents maybe one day during the weekend, or maybe one dinner a week with them ONLY, unless there are special occssions.
He has to give you respect as his wife and partner in life.
2007-03-02 05:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by Ami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do his parents still live in the house, too? Is he helping them, or are they helping him? If he wants to stay in their house to help his parents, I would leave it alone for now- that's an honorable thing. But if he wants to stay in his parents house so that his mommy can do his laundry, I would divorce him and go meet a grownup. If his parents don't live there, you'll be able to work out a compromise, because it isn't so emotional.
2007-03-02 04:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you will discover, your husband is making each and all of the incorrect assumptions that brought about maximum of supplies proprietors going into foreclosures and financial ruin over the final housing bubble. you could permit him take himself and you into economic smash down the line, or positioned your foot down now and stress him to compromise. the relationship hassle you will journey interior the close to term would be no worse than what's going to come once you have the two sunk all your money right into a house that loses fee and lands up with adverse fairness during the subsequent actual supplies bust. he's fortunate to have a sensible spouse, so with a bit of luck, he wises up.
2016-10-02 06:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by benedick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my in-laws for 2 months while my husband and I were closing on our first house...I don't know about you but for those 2 months were living freaking hell!!! There is no way you can live with his parents and have a healthy marriage. Tell him your moving out and he can stay or come with you.
2007-03-02 05:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are his parents still living there too? If so then you DO have a problem...convincing him that you two need and deserve to have a life apart from his folks. Couples therapy would at least bring the discussion to the surface and give you a chance to give your heartfelt opinion.
If the parents aren't living there just plan for all of the remodeling that needs to be done to bring it up to date and present him with a plan....in order of things that need to be done. Then he might change his mind.
2007-03-02 04:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by bevrossg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are his parents there? Is it a financial thing?
Maybe you should start making your own plans to buy a house.
Let him see you checking classifieds and going to open houses etc.
Maybe he will catch the spirit.
2007-03-02 04:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by mxn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg your married to a men who want to stay with his parents omg you need to leave him or separate give urself time because if he wants that type of life living off his parents his retarted and he will never understanding the meaning of living on your own
2007-03-02 04:54:44 · answer #10 · answered by devandanielle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋