My husband's ex and her "lover" , whom we did not know, took her and my husband's underage daughter out of state for a week-end and she told her two older sons to lie to their father if he asked about the man. She has exercised poor judgment in the past with internet lovers. (caused their break-up)
2007-03-02 04:45:14 · 21 answers · asked by Patricia W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Teaching children bad habits is never okay. It's not right for adults to lie either. Just remember though, regardless of what this mother does you can't control her behavior. The only thing you and your husband can do is to continue to show yourselves as positive role models and your step daughter will eventually see who the better parents are. It worked that way in my ex's case and it will work in yours. Kids are not stupid.
2007-03-02 04:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they answer the phone, and even though you are available, you request that they tell the person that you are not. We all need a little down time here and there. Normally just screening the calls is effective, however if you are in a house with teenagers and no caller ID, the phone always gets answered as they are almost always convinced it is their Friends on the other end.
There are also those little white lies that we tell to spare people's feelings, if you were watching a sibling sing a solo in a school production and it was unbearable, just awful. You would most likely be told by the parent to tell the sibling it was wonderful.
Any other instances are just showing poor judgment and teaching you children that lying is acceptable.
2007-03-02 04:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by smedrik 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have really answered your own question.
Let your husband deal with the ex regarding the kids and at least in front of the children remain civil. The children don't want their put father or mother put down.
Your husband needs to be clear that he needs to know what is going on ahead of time and never ask the children top lie for a parent.
Good luck.
2007-03-02 04:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a child whose parents went through a divorce I would have to say NO, NEVER!!! It's better for the children if the parents are honest and straight forward with one another. Asking the children to lie or "not say anything" puts a lot of pressure on the child. Both parents should always know the kind of people their children are around. Your husband should discuss this with his ex, what if this lady's "lover" is some kind of phsyco. In my opinion your husband's ex is being selfish and not looking out for the best interests of her children... probably another reason they split I would think!
2007-03-02 05:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally do not think that it is ever "OK" to ask your children to lie for you!! There is nothing that a parent should be doing around their kids that would even cause the parent to ask their children to lie for them so that the parent can cover his/her a**! Perhaps a phone call to the local office of child welfare might be in order? There could be other things going on that the children are being asked to lie about as well.
2007-03-02 04:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by dragondave187 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i could lie and tell your pal their infant is lovable. they could on no account capture you in a lie, for the reason that attractiveness is "interior the attention of the beholder". does not injury you to lie in this variety and does not injury the infant or the mummy the two. Win, win win... the only clarification why you does no longer say the infant is lovable and permit the mummy experience good approximately herself is that in case you felt insecure in some way and felt to you had to instruct her you're greater advantageous than her in this variety (i.e. you have perfect toddlers and he or she does not). if so, you'll be the only wanting help. basically take the intense highway and lie.
2016-09-30 02:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask your kids to lie then you re teaching them that it is acceptable behaviour. And who do you think they will lie to the most? Their parents.
Basically if you ask your kids to lie then you are setting yourself up for a whole world of trouble.
2007-03-02 04:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by penny century 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is never okay to ask your children to lie for you. If you do, your children will grow up with the same morals as you have. Need I say more?
2007-03-02 04:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
iTs never ok to ask your kids to lie for you unless it is a death situation but other than that lie for yourslef not have the kids do it because kids lying for parents is not good parenting you want your kids to tell the truth not lie alot because learning to lie can be a bad habit
2007-03-02 04:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by devandanielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope..A white lie is still a lie. Asking children to lie for you, double lie.
2007-03-02 04:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Davileo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋