**note this is advice not for me**
I found out that my girlfriend (4yrs) and mother of my 19mo daughter is planning to leave me. And go back to cleveland from lexington KY, where we are now. i found a whole folder from Ryan homes with floor plans and everything. she already has the property picked out to build on! shes in an employment contract that holds her here untill the end of the school year (shes a teacher). Ive known since a week before new years. (merry christmas to me) But i dont know how much longer i can keep it to myself. Should i wait to see what/if she tells me? Should i admit i know? Should i just leave her b4 she leaves me? I just don't know what to do. any advice will be appreciated.
2007-03-02 04:43:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Wow, that's serious and your gonna get some weird answers here in Polls and surveys. Please ask again in the family and romance area.
I would spill my guts if it were me, but that doesn't mean it's the right thing to do. Have you been preparing for it since you know it's coming? When I knew it was ending between me and my ex, I started saving money and doing my own planning. I feel for you, and good luck.
2007-03-02 04:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by Baw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, it would depend on the vibe I get.
One way, I'd just leave the house, get a new place to live and never talk to either of them again. Also, get a lawyer so you can have custody of the child. I wouldn't let them know till the papers were filed.
The second way, I would all of the mutual friends over for a BBQ or something. Then, in front of everyone, ask why they plan to leave you and have them explain it to everyone else.
Call me vindictive.
2007-03-02 04:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by khanofali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you know. Maybe at the time you two had a fight and was planning on leaving then but changed her mind. Maybe that folder was a new home for her parents? Just try to talk to her. If you both love each other maybe you can work it out.
2007-03-02 04:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by kim_in_craig 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can get into a custody battle over your daughter, even if you aren't married. Legally she has to tell you that she doesn't want you anymore and also say what she plans to do with the child.
2007-03-02 04:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by Yafooey! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say call over for casual talk then catch them off guard with what you know, then the truth will come out and you will be able to make an informed decision. You can't hide the truth if you didn't expect it to come right? Be an adult and let them know where you stand.
2007-03-02 04:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by Diva 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her what you know. Who knows maybe you are jumping to conclusions on this one. But don't wait until the last minute especially if you need to make adjustments in your life to accommodate her leaving you.
2007-03-02 04:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by Thumper 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to her about it. Either way, what is meant to be is going to happen. You gotta get it out in the open, it's best for everyone invloved, esp. baby girl. BTW, follow your baby, no matter where she takes her, Seriously! I'd sleep on the porch every night just to be near them, that's the way parents work.
2007-03-02 04:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront her with what you found and get the truth. Why live a lie?
2007-03-02 04:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Id bring it up to her immediately, and see what her explanation is. I couldnt wait, if it were me. Dont let this go on.*
2007-03-02 04:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by Check this out! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hit her up about it and tell her that its fuckkd up that she was gonna leave and not even warn you about it.
2007-03-02 04:51:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋