If you were got married and your partner didn't want to have kids, would you divorce them so you can find a new partner that will have kids? Will you still leave them even after you are very much in love with your partner? explain how come.
2007-03-02 04:41:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would remain married to him. Your suppose to stick with them through good and bad that is what you vowed..
Give him a little time maybe he will come to his senses. You can try talking to him and let him know how much you want kids and what it means to you
He may be scared of the fact of becoming a father but if you did some how ever end up pregnant he would probably be their for you and love his child.
I have known quite a few men who didnt want kids but their spouse got pregnant and towards the end when the baby was born he was soo exited and loved his child so much and now she is the number one person in his life...
2007-03-02 06:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not get pregnant and tell him your pregnant. If he still says no kids, then dump the bum. While marriage is give and take and full of little compromises such as which side of the roll does the toilet paper dispense from, it does not mean only one person makes the big decisions all of the time. You have your life to live and your dreams to fulfill. Don't let someone control your future, find someone to share in your dreams and aspiratrions. Carpe Diem does not mean you stay home while he goes fishing. It means sieze the day. That means every day. Don't waste time letting someone hold you back.
2007-03-02 06:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I wanted kids, why would I marry someone who didn't?
If they told me before marriage they wanted kids, but changed their mind later - yes, I would divorce and find someone to have kids with. It is too crucial of an item to just "change your mind" about, and not something that two people can compromise on - you either have kids, or you don't.
2007-03-02 04:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This shows how well people communicate before and after they get married.
Why would you marry someone who did not want to have children, if you wanted to have children?
You cannot change another persons basic core of being, it will not happen.
If you are in love with someone enough to marry them, you have to be accepting and respectful of all of their beliefs.
2007-03-02 05:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would have been a good idea to discuss the whole kids thing before getting married
2007-03-02 04:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by John D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not have gotten married with out working out all those details first... I don't believe in getting married to get divorced... You have to compromise this situation... Try to adopt...Start bring babies around to see the reaction of the other person.
2007-03-02 04:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by Shonda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you know this prior to the marriage? If you did and thought you would change there mind then sorry it did not work. I would think what is more important a child or the spouse.
2007-03-06 03:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to work it out, but if the final answer is NO kids...and I wanted them, I would end it and move on!
2007-03-02 04:44:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when it comes to the decision of having children...it CANNOT be compromised. you either do or you don't. i don't want children, but my man does. he understands this and also knows of the irreversable procedures (tubal and endometrial abation) that have had to prevent any pregnancies. if he wants to have children all he needs to do is say so and we will go our separate ways. i will not let anyone try to pressure me into doing something that i just don't want to do. i love my man, but i also want him to be happy. if he wants children...he needs to go elsewhere.
2007-03-02 04:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by cfalways 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋