what is "normal" for an introverted person?

Question

Hi, I am a very introverted, shy college student. I am working on the shyness part, but I will always be introverted. I have two roommates who are pretty outgoing. I think they are both extroverted. One of them claims she is a little shy,but she has the most friends out of all of us and is always talking to someone on the phone or online. I constantly compare myself to them and i always feel inadequate. i am comfortable with not having millions of different people to talk to everyday, but I am starting to feel like there is something wrong with me and that i should be talking to way more people. Some times i feel pressured to go out all the time and sometimes they'll say that they want me to because they know i want to meet more people. I enjoy going to bars on occasion but I don't think getting drunk every weekend will help me be more outgoing or meet good friends. I tend to have close friends and everybody else is sort of an acquaintance. I am not sure what to think or do with myself

Answer 1

You are absolutely normal... I am an extreme introvert and love every minute of it.

I have a few friends that are true gems and many aquaintences. I do think some of these aquaintences would be offended if they knew I only think of them in this way. Its just that friendship is special to me and not just anyone can jump in be my friend without proving themself in some way, shape or form.

I have compared myself, in the past with others who are extroverts and I have come to realize that they do not think of all those friends the way I think of my friends. They use the word meaninglessly and use the word with my heart. I would much rather have it my way than theirs.

Look into the lives of those who have soooooooooo many friends that you can't count them and you will most likely see someone who isn't really a good friend at all. This is only my observation from what I have witnessed myself.

I too, use to feel pressure to go out but with age came more self esteem and the desire to please ME and not anyone else. I focus on making MY and my families life wonderful and anyone who has different thoughts on it can blow it out their A $ $ !!

I am sooooooooooo comfortable being me and live by these words : What others think of me is none of my business !!

Live for yourself and no one else... Life is only what YOU make yours to be, so make it a happy one in whatever you choose to do.

: )

Answer 2

What is normal for an introverted person is to feel better when he or she is alone.

Here's the difference between an introvert and an extrovert: The extrovert gets energized by being around lots of people. If the extrovert is alone, he or she looses energy and doesn't feel well. The introvert, on the other hand, gets energized when he or she can retreat and be alone, after being with people for some time.

There is nothing wrong with you. You are just an introvert (like me!). That doesn't mean that you cannot enjoy being with friends for some time.

There are people with blond hair and people with brown hair, thin and fat people, introverts and extroverts. All of them are normal.

Peace!

Answer 3

Nothing is wrong with you. If you are comfortable having a few close friends, then keep it that way. I agree, going out to get trashed every weekend is not a good use of your time, and gets pretty boring after a while. A happy, well-balanced person doesn't need to escape from life by getting drunk all the time. Don't let your roommates pressure you. Just be yourself.

Answer 4

Do whatever you want
There is only a problem if you are not happy

If you are not happy, then do whatever it takes to meet new people, lighten up, and have some fun

Answer 5

i love you youre beautiful muaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa