2007-03-02 04:32:04 · 37 answers · asked by seniortps 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jeez ppl........It's not me!!!!!!! I love my husb very much and I would never cheat on him. One of my parents was a cheater and I know the affect it had on me. I don't want that for my kids. Its just a question that someone asked me at work?
2007-03-02 04:42:32 · update #1
its not good to have someone else on the side be with the person u really love cause one day u will end up with none
2007-03-02 04:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by Chocolit B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a happier life, chose one relationship and end the other. And if you've picked up an extramarital something on the side then your marriage was having problems before you started to cheat.
Your lover has every right to be upset when you have sex with your spouse. Just as your spouse has every right to be upset when you have sex with your lover.
The lover, however, should know the situation and although upset should not be shocked when you bed your wife.
2007-03-02 04:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by pensacola_sand 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming your spouse knows nothing about your other man/woman, I would say you're a cheating jerk and the person you are cheating WITH is not only a jerk, but a demanding Jerk that doesn't know their place and has no right to make any demands at all. If they don't like what's going on with you and your marriage, they should stop seeing you.
If you are going to cheat, make sure your "other" knows their place.
On the other hand, if you are misleading your "other" into believing you have a future together, then you are a Super Jerk and you deserve all the hassle that your "other" can dish out.
Why don't you do the right thing and get a divorce.
2007-03-02 04:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by vicarious_notion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absurd...lover can't expect anything
If he or she would truly love you than they would offer you to leave your spouse and be together but it's never works, I shouldn't say never but most of the time.
Tell your friend she is making a big mistake by being involved with that person.
I don't judge people who have open relationship at least they are honest and accept their partners the way they are but lying is cheating it means you will hurt that person.
2007-03-02 04:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by chigirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's insane for a lover on the side to think that a cheating spouse would be faithful to the lover.
They have already proven they can be unfaithful. So what keeps a cheating spouse from cheating on the lover later on.
It's insanity.
2007-03-02 04:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need a lover on the side? I would expect you to DEFINITELY have sex with your spouse. If it's counseling time, get it for BOTH of you. Otherwise, bail and keep the sweetie you found. You're cheating both you and your spouse out of a growing and happy marriage.
2007-03-02 04:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the lover is in no position to tell the cheater to not interact with his spouse. :( how ever the spouse has a reason to knock the crap out of the lover and kick the cheater to the curb !! lol
2007-03-02 07:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its right to have a lover on the side. And if you do , who is this cheating person to tell you what to do with your spouse? That is what happens when you cheat with a married person.
2007-03-02 04:36:36 · answer #8 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm..This is a tough one..
I can only say that it is only right that your lover gets jealous of your spouse as in the end, he or she is your spouse, bonded by marriage, a sacred bond. In anyway, your spouse deserves your love too be it physical or emotional.
Hey man, anyway, it's the "feeling" that should turn you on for sex, not a decision that one would make for you.
Good Luck!
2007-03-02 04:38:15 · answer #9 · answered by Davileo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL You shouldn't be having a lover on the side...and of course the lover isn't going to want you going home to your spouse after being with them. Would you if your spouse was the one having a "lover on the side"...Would you want her coming home after a wham bam with her lover on the side* Would that bother you??
2007-03-02 04:36:42 · answer #10 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my question is why wopuld you have alover on the side what are they giveing you that contrasts so badley from your spousee see if they are fullfilling you sexualy and mentally there is no reason to have lover for the simple fact that you madde vows and if you arent going to honer those then you shouldnt have made them. and to answer your question no it is not right they a re your spouse so have sex with them regardless of what your"lover" says
2007-03-02 04:37:46 · answer #11 · answered by Keenya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋