I am normal looking girl, and married to a drop dead gorgeous man. I know he loves me and all that, but it's really hard to see all the really pretty girls all over him. He hates it too and just wants to be with me, but I can't help thinking he's a guy so he must want to sleep with some of them, even if he never would he must WANT to? I find it really hard, because although when I am at home and it's just us I feel like a goddess, when we hit the streets I feel so ugly and boring. I am not really that jealous, which is good or I would have gone insane from the girls throwing them selves at him 24/7, but I am getting so down about this, and I don't wanna say to my husband in case he realises I'm not pretty too. Help.
2007-03-02 04:26:35 · 20 answers · asked by CHARISMA 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would fell so proud to walk in public with my drop dead gorgeous man..seeing how every girl wants what ive got..you are feeling insecure but do you have any idea how jealous they are of you girl..?rather use your energy to enjoy and show off your man in public as to sit and whine about what you "think".dont let these thoughts poison your life...You better build your confidence and fast..there is nothing as attractive than a confident woman..you go girl!
2007-03-02 04:37:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, first of all, your husband would never "realize" that you are not pretty. I believe in my heart of hearts that you are a gorgeous girl. And he obviously thinks so too or he would not have married you. True, he could have married you based on your personality but I doubt that is the only reason. I think it would be difficult to really fall in love with someone without any form of physical attraction as shallow as that may sound, 9 times out of 10 thats just how it is. You're feelings are pretty normal, I think. Any woman who is with a man that has woman actually throwing themselves all over him can make a woman feel pretty insecure. But you're lucky, because you're man only has eyes for you. And not all guys want to sleep with any pretty woman that throws themselves at him. Think about it, what if you didn't feel "normal looking". What if you felt like you were SO gorgeous? There would always be someone that you felt looked better than you regardless and other woman would still be falling over your husband, right? You got yourself a keeper. A man who loves YOU and YOU ONLY. And no matter what girls are coming on to him, he still wants you. Because regardless of how the other woman LOOK, they have NOTHING compared to what you have obviously been able to give him to keep him sticking around and wanting more from you;)
2007-03-02 12:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by shainamarie20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all well done on realising that the problem is in you. We can give you all the advice there is, but ultimately it's to do with your own lack of self-esteem and there's issues that only you know the history of.
Your husband chose, out of all the possible women in the world he could meet, to marry YOU. He's probably dated prettier girls, and he has certainly seen gorgeous women on the cinema screen, but he chose to make a promise to you alone that he would spend the rest of his life with you. And when you are in company, and he is surrounded by these women that you think are prettier, well doesn't it make you feel good that these women are probably jealous of you?
I'm sure you're not normal looking ... I bet your friends see qualities and beauty in you that your lack of self-esteem doesn't allow you to see.
2007-03-02 12:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! self esteem issues to the max.
ok. let me explain something that most women never know. looks are only part of the package. the "you" completes the package. Do you understand this?
If you are attractive at any level to him then that's what made him WANT to talk to you in the first place. The physical attraction opened the door. After that, you opened your mouth and he enjoyed what he heard. (You aren't a brain dead bimbo)
Now think about it. He loves you. He married, you. He likes coming home to YOU. You the package deal. The REAL deal. The one who loves him and will do anything for him.
Those plastic girls are nice to stroke the ego but then they usually don't have a brain in their head. Talking to them is like talking to a balloon. NO CLUE. NO GOALS. A WASTE OF TIME. Probably not good in bed either. I'd bet you are.
if you want to talk IM me.
2007-03-02 12:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know whether you should tell him because you may make him paranoid about talking to women because he won't want to upset you. You should try and live for now. It sounds like you have a good guy who already thinks YOU'RE GORGEOUS! But if you've been feeling like this for quite a while then maybe it's time to tell your husband then go and speak to a therapist about your feelings.
Good luck & all the best for the future.x.
2007-03-02 12:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Your husband must think you are beautiful and wonderful or he wouldn't have married you. He is drop-dead gorgeous, so it stands to reason he would marry a pretty woman, right? Maybe you just don't see yourself clearly. I bet you are lovely.
2007-03-02 12:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think anyone does not have that tinge of doubt but i can help thinking why woman throw themselves at him! I dont know any girls that do that or any boys who have it! Are you going to 'couple' kind of places?
By the sound of him he is verrrrry happy with the steak he has at home and not the 'hamburgers' that hang around. And hey if you truly love someone no-one ever comes close do they?
Try changing your venues and building your self esteem, easier said than done i know but you seem to have everything to keep him interested.
2007-03-02 12:34:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sure you are pretty,maybe because you are so deeply in love with him you think that everyone wants him,he shouldnt pay any attention at all to them /there is no way anyone could be that handsome re-read your post and realize how much you love him and put him on a pedestal,that is very dangerous it will hurt real bad when you realize he is only like the rest of us and starts to use this to hurt you with im not saying he would do that but could looks are only skin deep and in the eyes of the beholder inside your heart in where the beauty is and i dont have to see you to be able to tell you,you are beautiful
2007-03-02 12:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, your husband married you so he must think you're beautiful. You have to forget the insecurity stuff. If he hates all the girls falling all over him I guess one of you will have to speak up to them. Enjoy your husband and don't let the other girls bother either one of you. Remember you have him and that's what is important.
2007-03-02 12:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better go see a therapist. I used to be very insecure, and it poisoned every single relationship I ever had. The insecurity is a symptom of another issue, that issue being depression.
Before your relationship is poisoned by these feelings, get therapy. Therapy will help you release your emotions, and will make you feel better.
2007-03-02 12:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by BrokenOpalAngel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋