So, my ex and I broke up over a year ago, but we still talk once in a while. I usually see him once every couple months. Yesterday I went to hang out with him (I haven't seen him since Jan 2), and he was drunk at 7:30. Him and his coworker quit work early, and went and got case of beer. He had 8 beers, and drove himself home. He says he knows it's wrong, but he doesn't care.
He is a mess!! He almost lost his house a couple weeks ago, and he had to get a pay advance to cover the mortgage, but then he went out and bought a 50" flatscreen tv last week. He wanted to tell me the truth and said yes he has a problem, and that his friends are worried, but he just wanted to have a good time with me.
Anyway, I'm sorry this is so long. I just don't know what to do. i don't want to blow him off and say, "sorry, you're on your own", and I want to be there for him, but at the same time, I don't know if I want to deal with that.
Any advice would be appreciated
2007-03-02 04:18:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i think you should have a heart-to-heart conversation with him. Let him know that you care about him and that you are concern for his health and his environment- like money issues and what not. But most important, don't tell him that he has a problem- he needs to figure out this for himself. But of course you can gently tell him that it is probably not the best to drink all the time, etc. People who have problems with drinking, they usually have to find out the hard way to really know that they are having this problem.
The biggest thing is to be his support- because i'm sure his other friends aren't nice or considerate like you. BE THERE FOR HIM- listen to him and Open him up (feeling, not literally).
Good luck- YOU CAN DO IT!
2007-03-02 04:24:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
before everything i imagine you need to merely bypass see a psychiatrist and communicate over with the well being care service about your complications, so that you'll figure out what you opt for to do about your complications. try no longer to drink alchohol once you're having those frightening ideas on your head because of route your merely ingesting your complications away this is an identical element in how some people do drugs because they opt for to flee from their complications yet all of us understand that drugs and alchohol gained't help. you actually might want to communicate over with someone about this or bypass to a well being care service and communicate it.
2016-11-27 00:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll only accept the help if he wants it. However, if you want to spend time or be there for him, then take him out somewhere without alcohol. Movies? Bowling? Skating? Anything. Show him how there are things to do that are fun with out alcohol.
2007-03-02 04:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by bwtiger0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may have some sort of mental illness, why dont you reccomend he see a therapist?
2007-03-02 04:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by di12381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vodka is always nice
2007-03-02 04:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by Daniel S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋