2007-03-02 04:11:24 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know , I have been going through this. Any little thing he does that makes me angry or makes me sick that makes me not want to have sex. Its almost like I look for reasons not to. Then I will go through a faze where I want to everyday.lol My poor husband is so confused. But it seems he has been allot nicer to me and helping me more, because I told him that when he makes me mad etc. that I lose interest. But secretly I worry too when I go through the periods when I just don't want to. ummmm....
2007-03-02 04:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First check and see if any medication you are on is causing the lack of sex drive. Lots of medications will do this. Then, if that's all clear, then try some stimulants. Movies, toys, etc. I'm sure your husband wouldn't mind if you mentioned you wanted to watch an "erotic" movie with him or brought home a toy for you two to try out. It seems like you need some excitement, maybe? How about a weekend alone? Go out of town with no kids and just wine and dine each other. Try to start out with a nice soak in hot tub together. Some hotel rooms have hot tubs in the room. Call your man at work and tell him you have something special planned tonight for the two of you. Go out and get some supplies to kick start the fun. Your marriage won't suffer, if you try, and just be honest with your husband about how you want to have a good sex life.
2007-03-02 13:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you dont want to have sex then their is obviosuly something wrong with your marriage in the first place. maybe you dont find your husband attractive anymore or maybe you just have somehting on your mind. If it really is a problem think about how your life is going and see if you can change some of the things that are bothering you then if it comes to a desperate stage take s some pills or see a sex therapist.
2007-03-02 12:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by imcoolyournotgetoverit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex today is a cold "Hey lets do it." The question is have talk this over with your husband? Talking will be the best cure, if you can't talk then you have a bigger issue than sex. If you have tried that then you need a doctor GYN, or sex therapist. If you tell your husband that you are really work to help this and you take care of him the best you can he'll be ok.
2007-03-02 12:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by fd369a 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Low sex drive may only be the symptom of some underlying issue. Are you stressed? Depressed? Are you feeling any other way lately? Has anything happened?Do yourself a favor and get your vitamins! Eat a healthy diet. I know you may think it's totally irrelevant, but never forget that you are what you eat. If you do not supply your body with what it truly needs, it will not perform the same way.
2007-03-02 12:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by crankystar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already answered your own question by saying that if you don't then your marriage will suffer.
Do you want your husband to develop a bad pornography addiction, or end up cheating on you eventually, or even divorcing you? If so then keep those legs clamped together but if not then I'd suggest you give that man some booty and do it with a smile on your face.
2007-03-02 12:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by WhooHoo! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are some people who are called "asexual" it means they have no intrest in sex. It is very unusual because is a primitave need and desire but it does happen. The need for sex is a desire for every specie on the planet. Do some research into it and see if you fall into this category.
2007-03-02 12:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First you should determine why it is the you are no longer interested in sex. Is it your marriage, too tired, etc. Until you determine the cause it is difficult to fix the problem.
2007-03-02 12:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by Kenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apart from all of what was said above, this may actually be a symptom of hypothyroidism.
Maybe the best place to start is with the Doctor.
Hope it can be sorted out!
2007-03-02 12:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by mxn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have kids...get a babysitter for a night, or send them to a friend overnight. Go out...have some wine, some romance. You need to remember why you feel in love with him. Passion will follow.
2007-03-02 12:15:52 · answer #10 · answered by the beet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋