My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months. In my own heart, I know that I found the one for me. I have been through relationship ups and downs and now I have come across what I know as magic (at 27 years old). We both are completely in love. In other words, in would hurt me to know that he wouldn't want to marry me. Any advice or words of encouragement?
2007-03-02 04:02:00 · 13 answers · asked by dulcecorazon28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He'll propose.
2007-03-02 04:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Been going out for only ten months?
I sincerly think he does not have it in his head, or if he does then he will pop the question. Do not push or nag him into it or he will most likely split instead of marrying you.
If you want SIGNS that he will ask the question, the questions to ask your self is the following.
Did his parents go through a divorce when he was a child? Was it an ugly legal battle? If yes, the pain and misery of that will make him think divorce is a bad idea and won't think of doing it anytime soon.
Does he have a stable and well paying job? Are his finances in order? If no, then be prepared for him to delay the question a bit longer till the answer to the question is yes, for he is looking at the practical aspects of a marriage so you are both well off, not struggle.
You mentioned you are 27 yrs old. Are you marrying him cause you know he is a good man, or cause you feel your biological clock ticking? IF he has any nasty habits or personality traits (like addiction, abusive, unfaithful.) then I tell you it is not love, but the urge to be commited before you turn thirty (or what some may consider an "old maid")
Do not let your emotions run you on this one, consider the situation carefully, for if you have high and unrealistic expectations before getting married, the disapointment will set in quick and boy will they hurt.
2007-03-02 12:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by gotagetaweigh 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You've been together ten months, that's a long while. You'd know about it by now if he had any plans or desires to marry you. No couple goes that long without at least discussing the subject a little and getting an idea what each other really wants out of a relationship. What have you done all this time, just have sex?
Try communicating a little sometime...
2007-03-02 12:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by WhooHoo! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You've only been together 10 months, but if your serious, why not bring the subject up, but dont demand a marriage proposal. Construct it as a future event to see if he is in that frame of mind.
If he is, congrats, if not, then let sleeping dogs lie and enjoy the relationship for what it is.
2007-03-02 12:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by di12381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should be expecting marriage, especially if he has NOT mentioned it to you. You should never pressure marriage with your guy. You wait for him to ask you rather than you ask him. If he hasn't mentioned it, then he's NOT READY. so don't expect it because you will just get your hopes up high. You would want him to ask you when he's ready, not when he's being pressured. You can't tell when a guy wants to marry you. It's NOT a prediction. If he wants you as his wife, he will ask you. Till then, you have no choice, just remember not to pressure him. He might get spooked (since he's not ready) & will make him break away from you. Guys don't like pressure, especially when it comes to commitment. The best thing to do is to let him be, let your relationship go with the flow, if things happen for you, then it does. Just don't expect & don't get your hopes up high, when you do that, you end up setting yourself up for disappointment.
2007-03-02 12:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the most obvious way to know that he wants to marry you is he will ask. That aside - the only way to know is to talk to him, and evaluate his responses. Have you ever talked marriage with him? Do you know what his views are on the subject in general, and on your relationship in particular? Do you know if he's looking to "settle down" and get married, or is he content to simply date? Don't be shy to bring up your future. He might not ready to propose yet, but if marriage is on his mind, he will let you know.
2007-03-02 12:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say 10 months isn't a very long time to decide on a lifetime commitment.....2 years, maybe, but 10 months??? Be patient....
2007-03-02 12:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A clue would be if he actually proposes.
Just be patient....it's been only ten months and he may not be ready yet.
I guess you could always propose to him but, being the old fashioned girl I am, I'd say wait for him to do it.
2007-03-02 12:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
has he even talked about it with you? if he hasnt given you any signs, then i wouldnt push it, just take it slow, if you know what its like to have ups and downs in relationships, then i suggest you be extra careful on making that total commitment
2007-03-02 12:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
darling if ur heart says that ur love is true do take a move n show ur boyfriend you wanna marry him and he'll surely wont refuse....
2007-03-02 12:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by nik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"How can I tell if my boyfriend wants to marry me?" He will ask you to.
2007-03-02 13:38:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋