Was your sex education useless?

Question

What was bad about it? What was never discussed that should have been?

Answer 1

Non-existent is more like the reality in the 1950's. (Don't tune out yet) The Era of sex education in the back seat of a 1950 Ford was humiliating, unappetizing and scary, hardly the thing of sex education unless you planned to be sexually inhibited for life.
Then came the 60's. Free and public sex was ugly in many ways although I certain enjoy the beautiful and revealing clothing that started at that time. But then came the reaction to, free love, as we called it.
Free Love was anything but free and loving, as it turned out, but free love identified people's discomfort with the no sexually acceptable sex unless in the darkness of the closet, back seat of the car, shed, garage or anywhere that was not public.
It is still, and maybe always will be, a hair splitting problem, but there is no avoiding it, and we need an adult way to handle the problem.
But the awakening of sexual adulthood by putting sex education in the schools was immediately attacked and distorted as a perverted and socialist idea, like Mrs. Nixon's "Just Say No program". Just say no forever, or what? No instruction or adult model, at all, is the mature way to handle it?
The only really good sexual education program was surprisingly given to my son and classmates in a Catholic High School. I was happily astonished to see a will done pamphlet. Clear pictures of genitalia and graphs of how the organs look and function.
For me, just the pictures alone in a responsible text was revealing and healthy and it would have been great to start the exploration as exceptable and normal.
Also, what do you do about an appropriate place for sexual discovery among kids? My wife and I allowed my son to have girlfriends in and offered privacy.
Parental guildance was, no pregnancy, no intimation or explotation, meanness or force were allowed or condoned. This worked fairly will, although it was not easy at times. As parents you are always concerned. Not everytime was perfect, but sex is not perfect.

Answer 2

Speaking of that---

What is wrong with these female school teachers?
Yesterday on cnn.com there was yet another story of a young 23 year old public school teacher who is accused of having sex with 5 different young boys (I believe around 15). What was once was a unique, shocking story is seemingly becoming much more commonplace, as other stories involving female teachers- most of them pretty good looking- and young boys (as young as 12-13)- vividly show. I would include links, like I tried before, but I am encountering 'problems'. Do a search yourself. At least one instance also had the teacher carrying the young boys baby.

What the Hell is going on here? There is no reason for this. To these women I have a revelation for you: THERE ARE HUNDREDS OF MILLIONS OF NON-MINOR MEN WILLING TO SCREW YOU! YOU DONT HAVE TO RISK PRISON EVER! I CAN DO THE JOB! I CAN PACK IT IN!

Seriously, what is wrong with these women? Do they want complete control over a little, pre-puberty boy? Are they totaly void of any self esteem? Are they just bonkers?

Answer 3

for me it was useless. All we learned about was taking the birth control pill, VD - the sings and symptoms, sings of pregancy ect.
School never once mentioned abstinence.
They never once suggested that if you dont' want to be a teenage mother in high shcool that you might want to abstian or that you may not get VD or any other disease by abstaining...

I think that should have been discussed in more detail. Heck, any detail would be a start!

Answer 4

this is one of the very first things I heard in sex ed-
" we all know that abstinence leaves you with 100% chance of no std's or anything else you may not want- but we all know that you all arn't goiung to listen to that so lets talk about the rest of the things you can do"

Sex Ed for my school was bad. It was like all the teachers were fine with kids having sex. I asked to leave the class when I saw what it was like so the teachers were all mad at me. I didn't care though because I knew what I needed to know.

Answer 5

Yes of course. Our student teacher in high school left before he even started teaching it. To this day I think he is such a coward. In the world as a health teacher, you should be brave enough to teach it. So our regular health teacher taught it. It was so boring. It was basically the same stuff we learned every year from Middle school. I already knew the stuff too.

Answer 6

I learned a lot from my sexual education class in school~if it hadn't been for paying attention in that class, I would probably have ended up with a baby by graduation like most of the girls I went to school with!

Answer 7

The one at school or the one 6 years prior when my sisters decided I needed molesting for intruding on their lives?

The one in school was a lot like the one in the movie "Johnnie Dangerously".

Answer 8

my sex education was great. Most of it came from on the job experience or porn when i was a kid.

Answer 9

It only made me horny. The video they make dudes watch where a guy rubs his nuts to check for testicular cancer still haunts me.

Answer 10

It was embarrassing all around. And as nonspecific as any "instruction" ever could be. LOL