When we first got together a year ago our relationship was very physical - now I'm lucky if we have sex once a week. Has he gone off me? What can I do to get his interest back?
2007-03-02 03:26:09 · 26 answers · asked by angelicsugarkitten 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talk to him.
2007-03-02 05:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by Bob N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry, relax! Generally the longer you are with someone the less you have sex. Me and my husband were all over each other when we first got together - but now we are more reserved. Your relationship has perhaps deepened within this time - and we all know we are like dogs with a bone when we start with someone new! Its just part and parcel of a long lasting relationship - get the spark back by allocating special time for each other - going for a meal, having a bath together - candles, massages - well you see where I'm heading ......
2007-03-02 08:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate, communicate, communicate. It sounds very cliche to say so, but communication is essential to a healthy relationship. You have noticed you are not having sex as often as you used to. Ask him about it, and see what he says. In any case, you cannot - or should not! - sit there and wonder about it. I understand it can be scary to face him, because there is always the chance that he will confirm your fears (of him wanting to leave you for example), but I can guarantee you that you are better off knowing, than living a lie. As for getting his interest back, I believe communicating with him will give you the answer to that. I wish you the very best of luck, and hope you will find a way to remain truly happy, no matter what.
2007-03-02 03:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by crankystar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what is going in his life and if he is just busy or overtired to think about it. If you continue to turn him down, then he's more apt to wait until your ready (time flies). Your best to ask him about it, to get the full story (maybe the thrill is gone or maybe he's just happy with, once a week).
Be aware of what he's doing and see if there is any reason to doubt what he's telling you (late nights, out with friends, working later, secret phone calls etc.). A man rarely turns down a night of fun so you may have to initiate it first, if that doesn't work, talk about it and decide from there.
2007-03-02 03:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be wise to perhaps dress up sometimes, instigate sex and he may well respond.
Get the physical side of the relationship back, on par by being spontaneous and not allowing it to become 'routine'.
get some naughty videos and take each other to the next level. Try a nice romantic dinner for two, followed by candlelit massage and then onto better foreplay. You will have him eating out of your hand!! 'no pun intended''
2007-03-02 03:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your relationship is just fine. i don't think that sex is a basis to tell if he still likes you or not. when you start your relationship, it is normal for lots of lust. but after a few years, i think lust will slowly wore off and what's left is love. aren't you happy that you're still together after lust has worn off of him? would you like it if he just had a relationship with you just because of lust. do you want lust to be the foundation of your relationship? you're even lucky you have sex once a week. but if you're so worried, then go and ask him.
2007-03-02 03:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by swirlz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
av been with my boyfriend a yr and the minute he started losin interest in sex i teased him . wear next to nothin wen ur around him buy loads of new sexy underwear try dressing up for him in the bed room aswell send him txts messages tellin him how much u want him and what you want to do to him tell him what you'v got planned for him but dont just go for it when he wants it explain to him that you'v got needs aswell try being adventurous with him like doing it in public places knowing that theres a chance you get caught he'll love it and if none of that works find some1 else and then ask him if he's gay lol xxx good luck hun i hope everything works out for you xxx
2007-03-02 03:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by army chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not nessasarily...has he took on any new responsibilities at work or stressed out over something. I would look deeper into the situation and ask him about it. If you don't talk about it then it won't go away.
2007-03-02 03:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by jesreekakorb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are other factors to consider if your boyfriend has decided to leave u or not. thus, the job of you now is to find out that cause from him and tackle the issue apporiately.
2007-03-02 03:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by JoZZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a week is not too bad.Did you gain weight,cuz i wood think that could be a problem. Men like women that can manage their weight,and want to look good!
2007-03-02 03:32:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Communication is the key, have you tried talking to him and finding out what the root of the problem is?
2007-03-02 03:30:15 · answer #11 · answered by Pearl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋