Husband of 3 years still talks to ex-girlfiend and flirts via e-mail. Should I put a stop to this?
2007-03-02 03:16:07 · 41 answers · asked by amwoetz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him it's either you or her,that's it!!!!
2007-03-02 03:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by stormy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't put a stop to this. or you would have stopped it already. So get a good copy of all the emails for a month and store them with a back up copy at a lawyers office for that divorce you'll be fileing for soon.
If you have been married three years and he's still into girlfriends on the net, he's still into girlfriends in the car, in their apartments, in the motel by the hour.. etc.
2007-03-02 03:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by ricketyoldbat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im married too and I do talk to my exes; actually 2 of them are 2 of my best freinds now. So I wouldnt mind if my husband had a freindship with his exes either. I do NOT agree with the flirting part though. Just an honest and clan friendship is OK.
2007-03-02 03:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by Alyssa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion on this as a man would be to say that he probably isn't over his past. The only ex that I talk to not because I'm being a jerk but because if I meet someone else I don't want to make them feel uncomfortable is my son's mom because we have a child together. There is one thing to talk to an ex every few months or something just to say hi but if it is consistent then something else is at play here. I wouldn't deal with it. One of my girlfriends talked to one of her ex's as friends here and there once in a while like every 5 months or so say and it didn't bother me because it wasn't flirty and they weren't trying to get back together so there is the difference.
2007-03-02 03:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by kws504 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much you trust your husband and his ex. I never stopped my husband from having communication with his ex's. Even knowing that they wanted him back. I know though also my husband would not flirt with them or start any conversation. They would have to start. But thankfully my husband wanted nothing to do with his exs. If your man had any consideration he wouldn't be doing it. I wouldn't say no you can't because it might make him do it more, but let him know that your not happy about it, that he should be giving you all of his attention, not his ex. But if it is just talk about famlilies and whats going on in the world then I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-03-02 03:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by beaches 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If my husband or just boyfriend 'll flirt with his ex girlfriends I'll stop it cuz it's ridiculous! If I'm his wife and he married me , I'm special in his eyes - why he's trying to flirt with someone else?
But the real problem is how to stop it?
If you'll scream and swear it'll be only concussion of air and he'll think that you're hysterical & uncertain.
Use your woman cunning and you'll win
Advise: be provident
♫♪♥♫ - nayacanna
2007-03-02 03:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by woo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married and if I found out that he was still talking to them AND flirting with them I would have to insist that he put a stop to it. If he continues to do something that is unacceptable within the boundaries of your marriage then he needs to at the very least be shaken up.
Let him know that you aren't happy with his behavior and tell him that you won't stand for it (and mean it).
I wish you luck!
2007-03-02 03:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by Vernita B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah you should put a stop to this. He is flirting with an ex! What more do you need?? What else do this sleaze ball do behind your back? Would he mind if you were just flirting with your ex?
2007-03-02 03:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by ♥eLizAbEtH♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking is one thing. Flirting is another thing all together............
However, 'putting a stop' to it may play you into the situation that you are trying to avoid.
Maybe you could ask how is -------- and what is she up to these days. You could even mention that you came across ---------- [an ex of yours :)] and he is not doing so badly............
Use your head to beat the situation, try not to get too emotional.
Good luck!
2007-03-02 03:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by mxn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, thats so rude
or u can just flirt with the waiter
then when he yells @ u in the car after dinner, explain that when he flirts via email u feel the same way
2007-03-02 03:19:37 · answer #10 · answered by p34nu7bu773rj3lly7im3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not a good thing for him to do. can hurt the marriage. why does he still feel the need to communicate with them? yes i would try to stop it. as whenever u and him have problems, he has someone else to run to, cheating u out of having an exclusive thing. as long as they are in the picture, theres always a chance he may cheat. he should get rid of them once and for all.
2007-03-02 06:34:00 · answer #11 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋