My ex girlfriend cheated on me with a guy from her work recently. She is one of those girls that if there is something lacking in the relationship she’ll not feel “loved” and she began looking elsewhere. She cheated on her boyfriend before me twice because of he wasn’t paying attention to her. Also, she is an attention whore where she fakes being sick so people can be all over her, and she is very insecure(also, she even began “seeing” ghosts). She even told me that she has always had a boyfriend for the past five years. She would ask me why I loved her every now and then even though I clearly showed it by telling her verbally, and through my actions. I always knew in the back of my mind that if I wasn’t good enough for her she would leave me, and she would always promise me that she wouldn’t. Right we broke up, I wanted to take her back, but to my surprise she insisted that she didn’t want to. Then I figured out she had been talking to this guy at her work that knew her from the past and he became her boyfriend within one month. I found out that they go out all the time and are all over each other. I also know that when she finds out the flaws in this guy she will become distraught from him and look for someone else, I just know it. Also, I was the best boyfriend she ever had in her whole life because I put her on a big pedestal. I have a couple of questions, did she most likely leave me because she has a history of cheating and because she was selfish and didn’t consider my feelings(maybe wanted to feel new love)? Also, what happens to girls like that who stay with their bf for about a year then quickly find a new guy every so often and automatically start having a good times with them, ie. Kissing, holding hands, eventually sex to feel that she’s loved? What kind of problem does she have?(psychological condition) Right now, she tries to act like I never existed and she didn’t even tell me she was cheating. I found out on my own. Also, may she realize what she lost was really good when the good times end with her new boyfriend and perhaps may want to talk to me again or will she keep leaching off of a new guy? What kind of problem is that attention whore thing she had going on too?(seeing ghosts, faking being sick). How bad her insecurity?
2007-03-02
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Crimson K.
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Sounds like she is in love with falling in love...
2007-03-08 23:40:52
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answered by Juliette 6
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The girl is insecure, craving attention, thinking it will satisfy her and make her feel wanted, and it does in the short term hence the sudden new relationships etc. however its not the need to be loved she needs, its the need to love herself. something that no guy can ever do. the ghosts and stuff, well they r probably just stories, another thing on her list to get attention, it might not be intentional. i mean insecurity is a horrible thing, she doesn't rly know what she needs, jus think she knows what she wants! to be honest you're never going to get down to the root of her problem until she does herself. a counseler may help, but maybe all she needs is time, life can give us experiences that all make us grow up at some stage. she might just get the wake up call and realise she's not a happy girl. in the meantime.. u put her in the past, and believe me,,, there are PLENTY of women out there. perfectly sane n loyal jst 4 u!! hope it helps.
2007-03-10 02:52:49
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answered by alison k 1
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What do you need now?Do you want to help her?Then just be a good friend of her,not as a boyfriend but a friend who could understand one`s problem by just looking at the person.It`s sure that she is feeling very in-secured.After-all these kind of relationship are bound over certain likes and dislikes.Don't get frustrated it`s very difficult to bring her back to you. what she saw in you earlier is no more with you,but with the other guy.So stop worrying about her if you need her and take a good sleep from her.And if your problem is concerned over her insecurity, then make her know how love works when it`s shared with one who loves us
2007-03-09 23:02:25
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answered by sadan2s 1
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This lady needs to see a Psychiatrist..She sounds like she has borderline personality disorder. I have a friend that I've known sense 1986 and I could never begin to count the number of men she has been with during that time.She sounds a lot like your ex-girlfriend. Please save your own sanity and do not start back with this lady.There will always be a new guy.The lady I wrote to you about had Herpes and is still having sex with new boyfriends, she just spreads it, as her need for sex over rules everything.
2007-03-09 23:57:35
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answered by Pamela V 7
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This girl has to be loved and it doesn't matter to her by who, just as long as the attention is on her. I wonder if she has ever been single for more than a week. I'd say probably not. With this type of girl you will never get a positive relationship, she has the "me,me,me," thing going. Be glad you are done with that one and move on.
2007-03-10 02:49:05
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answered by 400lbtwins 4
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Sounds like this girl is more trouble than she is worth, too insecure to really accept someone who really does love her, and as the first person that replied said-Borderline Personality Disorder! You need to cut your losses and be happy you aren't spending your whole life catering to her selfish need for attention. It would only get worse as time goes on, trust me!!
2007-03-10 00:51:51
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answered by Kimmie 4
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Too much is wrong with her for you to be agonizing about her behavior and wondering if she'll come back to you.
What is wrong with you that you desire a toxic relationship with a whacko?
What happens to someone like this? She will get used up and will become an old, wasted and lonely woman.
Run away fast. Raise your standards. Send her a thank you card. She did you a favor.
2007-03-09 05:26:53
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answered by Charlie Kicksass 7
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I can answer the question regarding what happens to these the girls who jump from guy to guy? They end up with three kids by different fathers with self esteem sinking lower by the minute. I know this girl in ten years. Run dear boy, Run.
2007-03-10 02:39:01
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answered by alikilee 3
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if she's seeing ghosts, faking sicknesses, and can't seem to keep her paws off other men...you need to run, not walk, away from her! she's got too many problems for you to even consider being w/her again. and if you are seriously considering getting back w/her you've got even bigger problems. "two wrongs don't make a right."
2007-03-09 23:40:28
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answered by ~Tintin~ 2
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I would say that she's a cork-doodler, but in relation to those last few partial sentences in your question, what do you want an opinion on?
If she actually saw ghosts, got sick or "How bad her insecurity?"
2007-03-09 03:44:37
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answered by ha_mer 4
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The problem with your girlfriend is that she has a sense of low esteem. She needs constant reassurance of her being ok. She should seek counseling about her neediness.
2007-03-09 07:40:34
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answered by Scott K 7
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