2007-03-02 02:59:04 · 14 answers · asked by tigergirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
even you are not happy and feel that your life is miserable, you feel that you better be single than be with that person. Actually i told him the truth and that i am not happy ?? for many reason with him and still he doesn't want me to leave ,we arguing every day almost what should i do?
2007-03-02 03:26:10 · update #1
Get some counseling from a professional........to find out WHO your are, WHATyou want, and what life is all about.
2007-03-02 03:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you very seriously need to think about how YOU would feel if the same thing was done to you. you love your husband. that's why you married him (i hope). but if you don't then you really shouldn't be with him.
No, I would not leave my husband. Or at least i would make sure i know this other person well enough to be sure that i want to hurt someone else that much.
think about it really hard. a marriage is NOT a broken toy you can just throw away when you see a new one. there are others involved
2007-03-02 03:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by medusaaddams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try like hell to fall out of love with the other person and stay in love with my husband. I don't think it is possible to be married to someone and not have crushes on other people. I think it is important to keep away from those crushes so that they don't develop into anything more. I think it is a huge wake up call when you do fall in love with someone else.
That new electrified sensation you get when you first fall in love can be a huge draw from an old stale marriage. Hopefully you married the right person, someone who will always have more to offer, which is why you married him.
2007-03-02 03:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all as his wife i would never do this and i would not be looking to fall in love with someone else. I would try my hardest to stay in love with my husband and work at my marriage and not look elsewhere. You need to love your husband and work on your marriage and dump the other guy asap. BUT if you dont want your marriage then be honest with your husband and let the poor guy go and move on with your life so he can find a woman someday who will love him for him.
2007-03-02 03:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. we have children and a family. i personally had this dilemma, and decided that while my love for my husband was different (real as opposed to lust), it was more valuable due to many factors. he is someone who i totally trust, he is a great father, we have a history that cannot be replicated. we truly walk this earth together, and i never worry that he would leave for someone else. following 'love' for someone else( which cant possibly be real and verified without years together) would be foolish and a gamble. we are all capable of loving more than one person. what makes someone a great partner is having the ability to commit and be loyal, and push away those other options.
2007-03-02 03:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, yes the whole purpose of marrying a man is because you love him, if those feelings dissolve and you feel that way about a different man, then you need to either figure out how to relight the romance with your husband or let him move on. Its not fair to hin to lead him on that way. He could be so in love with you still that he is oblivious to the fact that you are in love with another man.... so be a good wife and friend..,.let him know.
2007-03-02 03:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by kaligirl...xxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never leave someone for someone else only b/c they may have only wanted you b/c you are someone else. When you leave someone b/c you feel they make you miserable then you need time on your own (single) to figure out waht you want and what makes you happy. good luck to you finding you.
2007-03-02 03:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by BettieRulz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldnt!! then what was the point of getting married with him and saying "I Do" in the first place.. gotta love who you have in the beginning until the end... unless they do something that really ticks you off.
2007-03-02 03:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're married you have no business putting yourself in a position to love somebody else...all the effort you put into falling in lust....er a love with someone else should have been put into your husband. If you disagree, you should have never married him.
2007-03-02 03:04:58 · answer #9 · answered by Michael C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You might think that you LOVE someone else,but this might also be just an escape route.Ask yourself what Love really is?
2007-03-02 03:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by april showers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋