not help her but do it for her. i don't mind helping her because she has always helped me but i don't think i should have to do it for her because she doesn't feel like reading the book. what do you think i should do?
2007-03-02 02:41:50 · 14 answers · asked by ✯ Andrea ✯ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am with you. I would sit and test my mom when she was in school (I learned a lot myself too) but reading a school book is a lot to ask. I assume she would have you tell her what it was about or she thinks that it's not important to what she is doing.
There are a lot of other ways to get this information. Cliff Notes, On-line searches, etc. can get her the information she needs without you having to do the work for her. I would suggest these things to her and tell her that you don't feel right doing the work for her, just as she didn't feel right doing the work for you. Maybe she is just testing you...
Peace!
2007-03-02 02:48:28 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mother why she is going to school. Is it for a degree or an education? If it is just for a piece of paper to hang on the wall and something to list on her resume, it does not matter if she learns anything or not and it's not important if she does her own homework. If she has gone back to school to get an education, she has to do her own work. It may be hard for her, but it is the only way she will learn and have something of value to show for her experience at school.
Mothers are good a laying guilt trips on their children. Why not turn the tables on her? Tell her it is way too much stress for a child to bear to be responsible for a mother's grades. What if you do her work and she gets a failing grade? Tell her you could not live with that!
Also, it probably ought to be brought to her attention that "cheating" is not only bad for her character, but it is a terrible example for her children. Tell her you expect better from her.
2007-03-02 02:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by Suzianne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey , Toro
Don't sweat it. Just be honest. Tell her the truth-she's your mother! She knows better than to slack her way through college!!
College is a commitment, and she KNOWS that. The question is; how do you tell her without offending her: Well, tell her very openly, in a calm voice, that you can't do her work for her. Its wrong. Sympathize by saying that you know how hard it is to go to college and that she has to take responsibility for her schoolwork. TELL HER TO STOP BURDENING YOU WITH IT!! (Just remember not to raise your voice, so she doesn't think you're being disrespectful)
Chill out, and sit down with her for a talk. (you might want to ask a relative for help if you think you might need it!)
2007-03-02 02:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by papa r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that you would like to help, but you can't do it for her because then she won't be learning. Tell her you are busy with your own work, and that you don't have the time to read a book and do her work and that she needs to figure it out on her own.
2007-03-02 02:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by mfupipoet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mother needs to realize that if she can't do the homework, then she can't do the job. How is she going to learn by you doing it. Tell her you have enough on your plate. Tell her also, that she has to learn her own career, not you , so to get busy and read, and learn.
2007-03-02 02:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me, also. My Mom would get mad and hateful if I said I didn t want to do her college work. I feel for you.
2016-02-11 12:50:53 · answer #6 · answered by dotty98 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to help her in this case is to let her do it. Make sure to explain to her that you're not going to do her work for her own good.
Hope she understands!
2007-03-02 02:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL her to do her homework. THAT there may be a test down the road.
2007-03-02 02:46:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn;t do it for her. The point of homework is for her to learn the material.
2007-03-02 02:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by megan261980 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She made you do your own homework, right? So why should she have a double standard? It's her work, she should do it.
2007-03-02 02:45:27 · answer #10 · answered by charlie h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋