getting married?

Question

Number your answer to each question:

1. What is a normal age to get married?

2. Is 18 too early to get married even if you have finished high school and two years of college by then?

3. Is a ten year age gap between the girl and the guy too much even if the girl looks older and the guy looks younger? meaning the guy is 27 and the girl is 17?

He's not taking advantage of me and we haven't dated, just talked, it's sort of an arranged marriage kind of thing. I just wanted to know your opinions on the situation.

Answer 1

Okay.......
1) There is no "NORMAL" age for getting married.

2) I think 18 is very young....... even if you have finished some schooling... maybe stay engaged for a while...... you will do a lot of changing in the next few years.

3) A 10 year age gap is not bad, HOWEVER, 27 and 17! that is a statutory gap........ Just by seeing you explain your age in the terms of looks, brings me to assume that you truely are way too young to be entering into a life long comitment......you may have a lot more growing up to do.

Answer 2

1. A "normal" age to get married varies greatly by the culture you live in. In Northern United States people wait longer and the "norm" is to marry mid to late twenties. In Southern U.S. where I live, some people get married while they're still in high school. Not to say that either way is right or wrong, just stating the way things are.

2. Having finished two years of college by 18 would be a small wonder. I know it's besides the point, but I'm a college sophomore and I'm 21. I'm a little behind, but in order to have two years of college under your belt, you would have had to start at 16. If you're that smart, why are you settling down so soon? If you can finish all of college by 20 you'll be able to manage married life MUCH better with a secure career backed up by a diploma.

3. Age is relative, yes. However, there is an unpleasant thought you have to address: Since he is 10 years older he will most likely die 10 years sooner. Add that to the fact that women usually outlive men by 5-10 years anyway and you're looking at 15-20 years of being a widow. Does he have a solid job? Has he started putting away money for retirement?

You also have to think that college is FULL of really cool guys that are all your age and interested in the same things you are. It's hard to relate to someone that you have a decade age gap with. You probably like more modern stuff, and still like to go to the mall, etc., but he's close to 30. He probably would rather do something like fishing, or going to a sportsbar, etc. You're probably in to "college age" stuff, and he's probably into more adult activities. That makes it hard to get a solid foundation for a long time relationship.

However nothing is impossible, and if your heart is set on this one guy, then go for it. If he treats you well and can take good care of you, it could be beneficial to you while you're in college. Though you may miss out on some fun in college ;o)


Best of luck!
-Sarah

Answer 3

1. What is a normal age to get married? There is none

2. Is 18 too early to get married even if you have finished high school and two years of college by then? If you are not emotionally nor financially responsible enough to be married it is.

3. Is a ten year age gap between the girl and the guy too much even if the girl looks older and the guy looks younger? meaning the guy is 27 and the girl is 17? Yes, the girl is still a child/teen the guy is an adult nearing his thirties and they really wouldn't have that much in common unless the man is extremely immature (as in "failure to launch" type immature)

Answer 4

1. I don't know if there's a "normal" age to get married. Some people don't get married til their mid 20's and some not until they're 40. It can vary greatly and depends on the individuals and the relationship.

2. You're technically considered an adult when you're 18. I personally think though that you go through a lot of changing and, hopefully, growing after that.

3. Ten years is ten years. I don't know if you can say one way or the other whether or not that's too much. (But I can definitely tell you that looks really shouldn't matter). Women tend to be a little more matrue than men their age, especially at 18. However, one thing that can happen with being in a relationship with men that are older than you, especially in your position, is that the man can be a little controlling, and possibly manipulating.

I really don't know your situation. Only you can decide what is right for you. Sometimes that means stepping back and letting your head think first, instead of your heart.

Answer 5

There isn't any age I would put down as a normal age - it depends on the two people involved.

No one under age 30 should get married unless they have dated for at least a period of 10 years. I'm refering to having a dating life with one or multiple partners in dating. It could be from age 16 to age 26.

A ten year gap between ages 30 and 40 for marriage I could see.
Trust this - a seventeen year old should not be dating a twenty seven year old let alone marry him! The maturity levels are vastly different whether you want to believe it or not. Date for two to three years and if you last that long then you will probably have already had several breakups due to your different attitudes because of your ages.

Answer 6

1. There is no "Normal" age its based on love, 2 people that want to spend the rest of their lives together. Its based on wanting to become successful together, form a family, a home, combining financing. Basically age is not part of the formula.

2. You have priorities stick to them. If education is very impt to you before marriage then complete it. Because later in life it gets harder, money becomes tight or kids come into the picture. Another thing are you ready? Is this who you want? age is not an issue

3. Oh wow should have read this before.....that is a gap but there exist successful marriages in your exact situation. On the other hand your young its very hard to believe that you have found the man of your life. Your experience with the male gender is not enough for you to be able to distinguish between real love and someone that is just part of an experience for you to learn & use later in life. It wouldn't matter as much if we were talking about a 24 or 26 yr old women and a 36 yr old guy. Why? because you have maturity on both sides, more experience at that age, you pretty much know where your going and what your doing. Your more firm in your discisions and make them with wisdom. Anyway its entirely your choice. You are the one that will live with him for the rest of your life. That is if you take marriage seriously. You may want to consider engagement first and marriage later on down the road, 1 or 2 yrs? Good Luck.

Answer 7

Okay i will try to answer this the best that i can.

1. There really is not set normal age for marriage. I feel that you should be at least 18 to do so.

2. In some cases yes 18 is too young to get married however i have seen my sister get married at 18 and she has a great and wonderful marriage to her husband and they have two beautiful girls that God has blessed them with 16 years later. If you are ready for a life time commmitment to someone and are marrying for the right reasons then 18 is not always too young. Marriage and love is a choice we make no matter how old we are. But i do feel you should be at least 18 years of age. Of course years ago my mom's sister married at 16 and fifty years later they are still happily married and have 3 boys together and wonderful grandchildren. Like is said it is the matter of the heart.

3. No i do not feel that ten years is that much of a gap at all as age really does not matter and as long as you wait til at least 18 to marry him and to settle down. How long have you known and been dating this guy. I recommend dating for at least a year to to years before marrying.

Answer 8

1. I don't believe that there is a "normal" age to get married, everyone is different.

2. I would say it depends on the individual and their maturity level. Having the schooling under your belt is definitely a big plus!

3. A 10 year age gap is nothing when your an adult. Best opinion I can give is this.....Who cares who looks older and who looks younger. Who cares if there's 10 years difference. And most importantly, you know if it's the right time for you to get married or not. Sometimes in life we tend to over think things, and other times we follow our heart. Do some research (via people you know who've been married for awhile) find out what it in tails to be a wife, what responsibilities there are to being another persons mate for the rest of your life. Talk over with the man your thinking of marrying about the big issues, religion, children, long term goals, and what his idea of the perfect life for the 2 of you is, and then decide if you want to jump in. Only YOU know if this is what you want! One last thing, stop worrying about what everyone else is going to think of you, it's your life and you're the one living it! Good luck to you!

Answer 9

1. There are no "normal age" to marriage. There are only the custom/usual age to marriage, and that is decided by the society. It's "normal" to get married at 14 in the shakespear era; for now, the usual age of marriage for a woman is 27 and above. For men, it's 30 and above. For celebrities, it's much much later.

2. You cannot use age to determine when you should get married. Not all humans are the same. They have different maturity levels. Different people have different types of lovers. If both feel they are ready, they could get on ahead and get married! At the age of 18, why not?
However, based on what the society thinks, 18 may be too early an age toget married. Your parents and friends are a part of the society too.

3. Appearances and age does not matter in love, much less then marriage. Love comes before marriage. And since appearances and age aren't issues in love, why would it be issues in marriage?

The thing to note is that, marriage is not just between 2 persons. Once a person is married, he/she has to take up the responisbility of accepting persons around his/her spouse. It is a process whereby the individual's life of you spouse is connected to yours, and the individual life of yours is connected is conected to your spouse.

Answer 10

17 ahnd 27??? That's way too much no matter how much high school you have! Men that age who date teenagers are looking for someone to take advantage of, sure he wants to get married, so she can be his doormat/chef/cleaning lady/sex kitten/baby maker, but some women like that. They are called stay at home moms. If that's all you want to achieve in life, sure go for it, but in 10 to 15 years time, you might feel like you missed out and you would have. It's too early to get married. Wait at least another couple of years. Age is not just a number and when you get older, you'd know this. A 17 year old is not possibly on the same level as a 27 year old unless he has a severe mental defiency. Nothing against 17 year olds, just biologically, socially and culturally speaking it's impossible.