i nearly cheated on my husband, he caught me texting another man, how do i make him trust me again, i know i dont deserve it but i do love him
2007-03-02 02:14:23 · 43 answers · asked by a_working_wife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Explain to him that you were tempted - at the same time give him the reason why you felt like this (there has to be one). From there on go to making your marriage work - he must be hurting and so you must now be prepared to give lots of loving care and attention - I hope things soon get back on the right track for you.
2007-03-02 02:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be scrupulously honest with him and with yourself. Why did you feel tempted by this other man? Can you tell your husband why you felt tempted? If he can see his part to play in why you might have looked elsewhere he will see that he has his bit to do in winning back your whole heart not just blaming and forgiving.
Also give up all semblances ofprivacy for a bit - give your mobile phone into your partner's care the moment you are back home, let him see your diary, let him know your computer passwords etc etc. Don't hide anything or be evasive even for a second. This is the only way to win back his trust.
2007-03-02 02:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So if your husband had not caught you; you would have cheated with this man. And you want to know how to MAKE your husband trust you again. You are some piece of work. You are Right you don't deserve your husband. Your husband deserves BETTER.
2007-03-02 02:23:15 · answer #3 · answered by Monty L 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You ahve to be honest with him as to why you even considered text messaging another man.
Not as your Husband but as your friend you need to trust in him and let him know what you were feeling that coompelled you to risk losing him. Perhaps you are really unhappy with yourself and need counseling.
It will take time. If the shoe were on your foot I'm sure you'd have a real problem with it as well. Allow him to be human and if he didn't leave you then he loves you and is willing to give it another shot. It is your responsibilty to do whatever he wants in order to make him comfortable again.
This may mean giving up your cell phone, pager, internet, etc. to appease him.
You knew how to be sneaky and now it's time to know how to be a wife. I'm sure you want him to feel comfortable and not ahve to worry about the Woman he loves and married all day.
Good Luck!
'-)
2007-03-02 02:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your husband that temptation had been put in your way but you realised how much you loved him.
And that was what stopped you. Try doing spacial things for your husband like cook a romantic meal, soft music, sexy clothes.
That will reassure him that you do really love him. There are lots of other things you can do to make him feel spacial, so use your imagination.
If you just concentrated on him and put him first, things should improve.
He will see how much you love him. Good luck hope everything turns out alright for you.
Don't feel guilty you did nothing, as you pulled yourself together before anything happened.
That proves how much you love your husband
2007-03-03 21:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by christine c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, the situation is all to familiar. I caught my fiancee' doing this with another female.
It takes time to regain the trust.
He is going to know why you were doing, what was he not doing, and mainly details, details, details.
You are really going to have to walk a fine line, to get him to trust you again, because any little mistake you will be being accused of cheating.
Time, Time, Time.
Don't get caught up again, so you won't lose your man.
2007-03-02 02:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a long road ahead of you and you don't have to physically cheat to have cheated. If a man was texting another woman behind my back I would consider that cheating. It will take an extremely long time for him to forgive you completely. You need to sit down with him and talk about your feeling and let him talk about his feeling. Don't interrupt him when he is talking, let him get all his feeling out so you can know exactly where you stand. If you are really serious you need to seek professional help as a couple.
2007-03-02 02:22:34 · answer #7 · answered by everythingszenidontthinkso 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he caught u than it will take a while before he can trust u again. be remorseful, take responsibility for what u did, communicate to him that u know what u did hurt him, tell him how wrong u were, and u will never do it again. show him by your actions u have changed. get rid of your cell for one. find out if he will forgive u, if he won't u should plan ahead and be ready for a divorce.
2007-03-02 07:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be totally honest with him. You need to be an open book for now so he has no doubts about where you are or what you are doing. Ask for his forgiveness for even thinking about it and tell him you love him and want to be together. Your actions will be very important from now on and communicating with him honestly will make him more trusting. Good luck
2007-03-02 03:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..its a very tough moment of ur life i can understand...but one thing is for sure....it will take time to settle down the matter coz....if a guy got ditched by someone to whom he love the most...the most disastrous thing for any guy...and whenever that person comes in front of us that tinch in our heart teases alot...so just stay stick ...and if yu really love him...just make everything clear to him coz if he made some assumptions that are not true will be the most dangerous thing...so tell him everything....and just wait and show him that he is the most important person in ur life...im sure he will understand...
so gud luck....and may god help u ..
bye n tc...
2007-03-02 02:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by vikas n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋