I've been married over twenty years now. I married my high school sweet heart. He is my life and no other person can fill his shoes. But at the sametime I don't know what it's like to have an other man. My husband is the only man who has ever touched me. No other man has touched me sexual I'm proud to say that. My question is this why do I feel I need to experience someone else to make love to me. I know its not because I don't love my husband but I just want to know what its like. Is this crazy or what! Help me please!
2007-03-02 02:10:22 · 6 answers · asked by love 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It could just be a curious thing... maybe you are bored and need to do some different things with your husband...get kinky, or something!
2007-03-02 02:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Smiley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being with someone, ( another man), is about intimacy and love. You can`t replace twenty years with one night of sex. Trust me, it`s not worth it, you may feel empty after you try. If a man knows your married and he sleeps with you he`s not worth the time of day, ( he is incapable of love and compassion). People 30 years ago got married out of high school and were completely satisfied with their husbands, why is everything different all of a sudden? What is attracting you to go and try? Maybe your depressed and need counseling.Marriage is for life, it`s not just for convenience!!
2007-03-02 02:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by lost2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me tell you for what I know. Im a ho. and I get bored really quick so, Im always on the search for that special someone who might last 3 weeks. Im very proud of you that have stay with the same man for 20 YEARS. If I was you I would never try nothing else, because you might end up like me, on the search. Why would you like to end something that beautiful with your husband and try something else. If I was you I stay with my 20 yrs. sweetheart and try to get those thoughts out of my mind. You should never let go the bird on your hand for another one that's flying. Try to spice up the bed and you'll find out that yoyu don't need another man. take time for yourself also, go shopping and get your hair done, buy some lingerie and get freaky. Good Luck
2007-03-02 02:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not crazy to feel that way, but it sure would be crazy to act it out. Affairs cause nothing but pain and sorrow and you get to a place where you can never return from. Be content to live in your fantasy world. Look at it in two ways: you can either be disappointed that you did it because your fantasy did not live up to your expectations or you might want to do it over and over again. Just continue to love your husband and ask him to try some crazy positions.
2007-03-02 02:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling, very well. I'm in a similar situation in a gay sort of way. I had a few BF's before him but, I'm at the point in my life that I'm wondering a little bit what something different would be like. Face it, you eat the same meal for 20+ years and you crave something else. I thinks its only natural to wonder. You're not alone.
2007-03-02 03:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just in a slump. Try to spice things up. After a while, a couple fall into a routine. Break the routine. I've been where you are. Do something for your husband that he will never expect. Suprise him.Even better, shock him. don't worry about your fantasy, just keep it a fantasy. Don't mess up what you have.
2007-03-02 02:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by ron s 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋