My ex-wife been together for at least 11 years. We are both 33. We got married 3 years ago. Before we got married, we talked about if we have to have kids and we both decided that we want kids. After being married to her, she's been pushing the issue to get kids. I told her that I don't want kids. She file a divorce recently. I thought that she love me enough not to get a divorce and support my decision about not having kids. I love her so much. How can I tell her to take me back? Should I just tell her that I want kids even though I don't want the kids just to keep her in my life? If she does takes me back, I would have kids with her even though I didn't want it. I miss her so much. I always been loyal and faithful to her. I'm willing to have kids with her just to keep the love of my life in my life. I still don't want kids but I love her too much. Is it worth it to do that?
2007-03-02 02:02:52 · 4 answers · asked by Mr Guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is a “deal-breaker”. I have had several relationships end because I didn’t want kids. Sorry, but that it the way it goes.
Get a vasectomy, then go back to her after it heals. There is no scar, and she will never know.
Then after "trying" for a baby for a few years, you can just say, “Ooops, I guess one of us is sterile. I don’t know why that happened.”
I know that means lying, but honestly we are talking about a major issue.
I am 40, and had my vasecomy at 21. I am old enough to know what I am talking about.
2007-03-02 02:10:16 · answer #1 · answered by Marvin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. You have a very big difference in your life needs. My son never wanted kids and he had a vasectomy with his wife's permission. Then after 10 years of marriage, his wife decides she now wants kids, meets another guy and leaves. My son was devastated, he loved her dearly but he is healing and getting on with his life and is much happier now. Point: Be true to your own beliefs or you will end up hating your wife and kid(s) in the end for giving in.
2007-03-02 10:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by sashali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants a complete family already, you've have made her wait already three years, she feels you dont really love her due to the fact that she wants to feel the women in her and what a real wifes all about, and she feels like that because she really loves you. I went thru the same thing and now I dont regret my kid because he made me love her more and got us wayyy closer!!!
2007-03-02 10:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by u_b_easy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with u b easy
2007-03-02 10:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by sidekick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋