About three months ago I woke up having a huge anxiety attack aswell as depression to go along with that. The thought that I woke up with was that "What if I have fallen out of love with John (my current boyfriend)" The thought scared me to death and slowly my feelings came back. I went from hating him one day to loving him the next...back and forth for about 3 months. I began analyzing EVERYTHING (honestly everything) he did and obvioulsly little things became very irritable for me.
So all in all I am wondering if what I am having anxiety because I HAVE fallen out of love. Am I convincing myself that I love him...I almost feel like I have someone telling me "no you dont love him" I dont know what to do. It is ruining my end of the relationship. I still love spending time with him and love doing nice things for him. We are affectionate and laugh alot together.
Although, my relationship before this one was drama filled tied in with a bit of abuse, emotionally and physically I am very scared to see my ex around town because I dont feel as though I have enough self control to tell him that I dont want to be with him. I think of him often not only of good things but bad too and I guess I am just waiting for the day that it really doesnt bother me to see him anymore....Although, I still find myself curious about things he does and I dont want to feel that way anymore.
I want to be with John forever and it will kill me to have to end things with him. Keep in mind this is my 1st non dramatic relationship and it is a "healthy" relationship. My friends say I am most myself when I am around him which I have never been with bf's...I was always controlling and snobby now I am just myself! So I dont know what to think about it, how do I know if I am convincing myself or not, how do I know if I am just doing this for my family and friends?
Thanks
Sincerely,
So confused
2007-03-02 01:59:15 · 6 answers · asked by dawson190154 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you do not know what to do, don't do anything at all. True love waits, maybe you need more time from the relationship. What does he think about this maybe you are the only one that feels this way. Always remember if he does not feel the same way there are other people that will love you more than that. There is life, and relatioships that will bud after John and because of John not necessarily with John. Just take up a kick boxing class or something! and revisit the issue in another month or two
2007-03-02 02:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by C.T. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything until your sure you may regret an impulse decision. Tell your boyfriend how your depressed and that if you act strange it's because your going through some changes. Tell him you may need time by yourself to think and that you need him to be patient.
Sometimes when you go from a unhealthy relationship to a healthy one full of love you don't know how to cope with all your new emotions. It happened to me and I left because I was confused and I regret it. Just look in your heart and you'll find your answer it just may take some time.
2007-03-02 02:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by nm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
emm.. I didn't read all of that because I don't have time..lol although i do analyze almost everything as well.. people say i'm a deep thinker. It's not bad in some cases.. but it can kinda stop you from living your life.. but personally I think you should go get help before it gets worse. Good Luck! :D
2007-03-02 02:06:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey,,,,i am so glad in a way to read this cuz i feel a lot like that where i anylize EVERYTHING and read over texts he sent me, wonder what everyithng means, i wish it wasn't liek that for youa dn me, i don't know what to say cuz i don't know what to do about it either, I try to pray and ask GOd to help me. i am scared to go on meds for it...try talking to a good friend and let it all out, you can cry on my shoulder....wish i could hug you and talk all day....good luck sweetie and i hope things get better for you soon, i really do
2007-03-02 02:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by shine_on 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your not quite over your old b/f. You really need to do some serious thinking here, girl! Don't let a good one get away1
2007-03-02 02:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by cutesquaw69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think you not normal but yeah you are one of the people who does this alot I broke up with my bf yesterday but we got back together later cause I realized I'm nothing w/o him!!!!!
2007-03-02 02:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋