at what age do u stop spanking a child?

Answer 1

I thought you would get arrested if you hit your child these days. I would say that around 6 or 7 you should stop spanking them

Answer 2

If you spank when they are young(12 mos. to 3 or 4), you shouldn't have to continue spanking them as a punishment. They know what "no" means. If you feel like they still need spanking, then spanking is probably not an effective punishment for that particular child and you will need to find another form of punishment (time out, grounding, taking away prized possessions). Whatever form of punishment you choose, be consistent and make sure that the child knows what they have done to deserve the punishment and what they should do next time--"When Mommy tells you to _______, then you must obey." Being consistent is key---being a "I'm going to count to 3" or "the next time you do that...." kind of parent shows that you do not mean what you say. Kids are smart--they learn that they can get away with something at least 5 more times until mom goes nuts! Good luck!

Answer 3

You dont even start they teaches a child to obey you based on fear of getting hurt its not right. Since you do spank I would say once there 6 or 7 because at that age there getting older and deserve the respect to have a voice.But again I would never even start spanking so I have trouble saying an age it affects younger children as well in a negative way just think about it.

Answer 4

The time-out never worked for me as a kid, because I didn't really mind being alone, and I was this crazy little imaginative kid who used to spend the twenty minutes day-dreaming. The only thing that worked for me was spanking. As long as you don't do it too often and too hard, it's actually quite effective. I only got spanked every now and then and I was apparently well-behaved. At the age of nine/eight, though, spanking stops working and grounding begins to work better, because that's when kids want to spend more time with friends or something. Taking away privileges is also good way of punishing - when I behaved badly my parents would take away my computer/TV rights or something.

Answer 5

If you do choose to spank, you should know when it's time to stop. First, never spank in anger, ever. Never attack and spank.

I have used spanking to make an impression on my child. To sort of snag them out of the behavior that is happening. Spanking is tricky though. I applaud your asking because you are most likely to get jerks yelling at you for spanking at all. Sort past those.

When you do spank, and walk away feeling like you embarassed your child, when they are old enough to feel ashamed, not corrected, then it's really time to stop using spanking.

I would be remiss not to add other choices, right?

Try the naughty step like on the Nanny shows.

Try time out. For fits, you know the best policy? Start counting. One minute in time out, that's two minutes...you better stop...that's three. Count until they stop the activity you want them to stop. Whatever number you are at, that is how many minutes they will spend in their room or on the step.

The trick with parenting is this: be consistent. If you give in to begging at the store because they are annoying you or others, your child LOGS THAT in their head. When they want something again, they remember that screaming or begging worked that one time! You just bought yourself a lot more fits.

Dont jump to say NO. Be sure you really mean no. This was my problem. I would say no, kind of out of habit. Then think, "Well, I guess that really is okay" and change it to yes. This is ALWAYS a bad idea. It confuses the kid and encourages begging.

Hang in there mom.

Answer 6

first of all if you feel the need to beat on a child then you should never use your hands. It teaches the child to be afraid of YOU. Use a wooden spoon, don't use it too hard though Mohammad Ali. The wooden spoon then becomes the aggressor in the childs eyes. Not you. Soon all you'll have to do is say, I'm getting the wooden spoon. That is usually enough to stop the offending behavior. You're an adult, you should be smart enough to talk to the child and punish the child in ways other than hitting. Spanking is hitting and hitting is violence. Hit a kid when he does something wrong and you teach the kid that hitting is okay when things don't go the way they want them to. Hitting teaches fear, talk teaches respect. Would you rather the kid listen from fear or from respect?

Answer 7

I was spanked right up until I was 12. But I think it should stop at 10.

Answer 8

I didn't quit getting spankings till I was 19! Well, that was my last one anyways. I have a smart mouth, I'll admit it. And if I were to do something stupid that my parents didn't like right now at age 20, I'd get a spanking for it! Even though I'm out of the house, living with my boyfriend! You know why? My parents don't take crap from me! Can't say I blame 'em. Especially with kids today!

Answer 9

You stop stanking them, when they stop doing wrong. I got 5 kids, my oldest is 11 and if he does something wrong he is still going to get it!!! Society has parents scared to spank their own children. But then soon as the child damages something or hurts someone else they want to point the finger at the parent. There is a difference between abuse and spanking. Go ahead and spank them until the message becomes clear. Teach him or her right from wrong. If we don't , no one will.............

True fact:

All the teachers at my childrens school come to me all the time about how well behaved and smart they are. ( all are on honor roll and all are student of the month for the month of Feb.) Even the bus driver said they are so well behaved. I guess I'm doing something right.

Answer 10

Spanking is a punishment. It shouldn't be started when under 1 year old, and could end as late at 45 for all i know.

There is a well respected man who once told me his father spanked him at 23 for drinking. he turned out fine, he is one of my influences.

Don't just spank, ground, take away toys or ice cream or something.

Even though I haven't been spanked for two years, I've been grounded.

Also, after spanking, give them a hug and ask them if they know why you spanked them. If they don't know, explain what they did wrong.

Give your child discipline, love, and give authority. Don't just go one way, parenting is a mixture of all three.

By the way, I'm going to get one the phone and call my mom.