... if it hurt to much to be around them. My son always comes back from his visits and let's me know how so in so still loves and misses me. My husband left me for another women and his family disagreed with this big time. I tried once to be around them, but I couldn't take it. Plus I afraid the new b----- would show up and I would love to physically hurt her. I'm now happily re-married, but I still feel leary of being around his family. I do miss his neeses so much. How can I overcome this? Should I give it more time? It's only been a year.
2007-03-02 01:44:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well if your already re married and its only been a year since your last divorce, then sounds like you are over it. if his family still cares about you and dissagrees with his actions, then maybe work out a time for them to come to you. that way you wont have to see your ex, or the new chick! maybe have lunch once a month with his mom or something. theres no harm in that. so many times when people seperate one or the other doesnt get a long with the others family, so if they miss you and still care about you, and if you have no hard feelings toward them, then you shold make an effort. good luck
2007-03-02 01:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least they were supportive of you in the beginning. It's hard when you divorce from the ex's family as well. But they still love your child, and your child should have a relatioship with them. I would suggest that you agree to meet them somewhere else, so you don't have to be worried about seeing the new person, or even have your new husband drop off your son, so you don't have any contact.
It's hard, but it will take time for you. Just chalk it up as your ex's loss, because he won't find someone like you again.
2007-03-02 01:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by Christie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds that his family has been supportive towards you. Why would you want to loose that, especially that your son would nee all the love he can possible get to come to grips with what happened between you and his dad. Could you negotiate it with his family, that your ex-husband' woman does not show up while you are visiting them? You know, what worries me is that you are so angry towards this woman while you are saying that you are over it. Trust me, if you really want to move on - let go of your anger. You will feel much better yourself and more at peace. It will take time, so take it easy!
2007-03-02 01:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by Alyssa Macey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you try to get over this on your own it could take you years. My suggestion would be counseling could help you get past the anger and hurt. I have gone through a similar situation with ex's. I do understand why you feel the way you do. Even though you have moved on with your life. There may be issues that a counselor can help you work out so you can have a good relationship with your ex's family.
2007-03-02 02:02:41 · answer #4 · answered by Janst 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on with your life and your son is just going to have to learn how to deal with that. You are the adult your son is a child. Stop babying him and allow the boy to grow and experience life for what it is. Not everything in life is going to be a fairytale.
2007-03-02 01:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by huckleberrydaddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way i guess is to talk to them abt this and tell them that u want to b at a distance for a while but yr thoughts are with them .maintain yr relationship thru phone for a while and once a little time passes u will b able to adjust.
2007-03-02 02:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by ng2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the best medicine. Don't cut off your relationship with people who were kind to you because of those periodic feelings.
2007-03-02 01:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by maran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know I got along fine with my ex's family ,it was my ex I had all the trouble with.
2007-03-02 01:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by Butch46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex IS THE PLAGUE!!!!!!!!
2007-03-02 01:51:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋