May, but now I am starting to feel like I may one day want another child, I am 32 y/o and only have the one for know, Even without asking him I know another child would be out of the questions we already have four.... What should I do? do grateful for the children I am gaining and the wonderful love I have found and ignore my desires to have another child?? or consider the fact that I could one day resent not being able to carry another child??
2007-03-02 01:41:24 · 11 answers · asked by Christy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In this case yes i feel you should be greatful for what you have in these children. You will and can learn to love them as your own if you want and choose too. Love is choice of the heart. Who knows he may just want to have a child with you? Have you asked him about this yet? You just may be surprised what he has to say. If you really want children of your own and are not ready for marriage with this guy then you better break it off with him now and move on with your life. What is more important to you and to your life having another child of your own or loving this guy and marrying him with or without having to have another one of your own? If you answer this question then you will know the answer.
I married my husband and i had four kids and he did not have any of his own. Yes i wanted to give him a child of his own but it was not physically possible on his part. He and I are very happy with the children that we have though and he loves them as his own and that is all that matters. If God chooses to bless us with another child that is great but if not that is okay with us as well. I love my husband with or without another child.
2007-03-02 02:06:05 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, but with the over population problems that this world has, it would be best not to have another child no matter what the circumstances. You had one and you're raising 3 more!. Your want for another child is just a selfish irrational biological thing. When making decisions, use your rational mind not your ovaries. Think about other people why don't you?
2007-03-02 01:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I have 3 kids each from previous marriages. We talked about having one together. We consider it seriously enough to research having her tubal reversed. Since the 3 kids living with us were teenagers we decided to wait for grandchildren. Now I have a 14 month old grandson, and another due next month. It was the right decision for us. but we are in our 40's. Don't eliminate the possibility of having another baby. Birth control isn't foolproof. And he may surprise you one day and say he wants another baby.
2007-03-02 02:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by bugs280 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself "is another child truely what I want?" or are you looking for something to bond you to your new husband? Four children, one would think, would be more than enough- and the relationship you build with them will bond you to your new husband. Additionally, who's to say he won't change his mind down the line some day? My wife had our daughter when she was 42. You have time to think about it...
2007-03-02 01:48:02 · answer #4 · answered by The Hero Inside 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, i could be worried. One, ok. 2? He truly needs to take marriage more suitable heavily. yet 3 is truly ridiculous. Does he only flow round marrying absolutely everyone who needs to, and parent he can get divorced if it would not exercising consultation? it truly is severe priced and emotionally stressful, now to not coach if there are babies in contact. Plus he did not exhibit this third one faster? Yikes. i could be having more suitable than severe doubts.
2016-12-05 03:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by cheathem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would it be out of the question? unless he has told you he doesnt want any more there should be no problem. just let him know that you want another one. if you are financially capable of supporting all of them and loving all of them in the same way, then whats the big deal? and yes, you may resent it later.
2007-03-02 01:48:55 · answer #6 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the choise is yours....stay with him knowing the 4 children u already have is enough
or dump him and attempt to acquire that second birth child
2007-03-02 02:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him before yu get married. Who knows maybe he is thinking the same thing about you, GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-02 01:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by Tia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this maybe a problem , hard to go with this children, be careful ur decission
2007-03-02 01:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you need to talk to your fiancee. good luck. you never know he might agree with u.
2007-03-02 01:45:26 · answer #10 · answered by wartytoadjody39 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋