What do I do?

Question

I have been married for eight years and I am miserable. We married very young because I was pregnant and I knew then it was a mistake but I wanted to do right by my baby. I have always been faithful and have appreciated everything he does for me and my kids. I guess what bugs me the most is the way he treats me and the kids and his total lack of personal hygeine. He constantly yells at the kids and he never plays with them or helps me take care of them. I have to beg him to help me around the house and when he does it's a half *** job, I wont complain because I'm afraid he'll never help me again. He never brushes his teeth or uses deodorant, he pees on the toilet and blames my kids, he picks his nose and wipes it on the furniture, he scratches his butt with our sheets and leaves stains all over them. He gave me an infection because he doesnt wash right and I've been on medicine for over a month. If I talk to my family he gets angry and says they are nosey. Please help me.

Answer 1

Let me just say that the situation isn't "right" so how your doing "right" for your kids having him being the father I'm not sure. If you got good family thats welling to help you out, you might need to think about getting you guys out of there. Of course this is all easy to say since I'm not the one in there. But we pay the price for not loving ourselves, no one else, well intell we have kids.... and staying with a man like this isn't loving yourself and I'm more then sure teaching them kiddies the wrong idea about how a marriage is suppose to go. No ones going to hate you for the marriage failing if they truly care for you. I just wish society was a little better set up to handle situations like this, but chances are your going to feel that looking from help from your family isn't an option. When its your only option right now. You can't change this man, only he can do that, and your not helping him any by staying there ether. He needs to know that you don't get a free ride on someone's heart.