I'm 29. She's 24. We're together for over 4 months now. I'm v much in love with her and we're still together, despite her idea since 2 months to reunite with her ex-boyfriend who has emigrated in another country. She says she can't forget that ex. But last week, we learned that my girlfriend was 6 weeks pregnant from me. Me, I was ready to care for her and the child, and marry her. But she said 'no', and said she would be unhappy to give birth to that child, as she wants to emigrate and be with her ex again. So yesterday and today, with my help (I'm heartbroken but I love her too much), she aborted with the Cytotec pills. She cried afterwards, saying she 'lost her baby' and felt guilty. But now she says she's relieved, and is starting to think about her ex again, although she still wants me to be by her side. Should I walk away? Or do you think that she will realize that love is worth being with me? I'm so depressed now, but after losing that baby that I wanted, I don't want 2 lose her
2007-03-02 01:37:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think this is a very sensitive issue.
Decision making wise you both have to work it out or break it out in mutual understanding.
If your girlfriend has gone through an abortion against your wish there maybe something that must have got into her mind on negative thoughts which is sometimes very very difficult for a women to explain in a pregnant stage,she maybe wrong are you 100% very very right yourself.
I think she was in a conflict of mind between you and her ex,something seems to have been lacked from your side that intially she must have taken up this abortion decision and conducting.
Anyway no ones to be blamed for it,because ultimately its the mothers choice to choose what she wants,all i can say is please make a proper planning and then intiate a pregnant act.
Its waste of time feeling guilty ,support her well thats what the lady requires at this moment of time and try again there is always a next time for having a child.
2007-03-02 02:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by Dipi s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear this. First off everything happens for a reason. She is selfish and she is using you because she does not want to be alone. if she reather be with her ex I really believe that you should leave now. You will always be second fiddle to her ex. If you guy are still together for like 5 years and this guy caomes back in her life she will always pick him over you. I think you should walk away now. I know it is easier said than done. But is the smart move for you to make. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-03-02 01:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by Tia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of you're able to stroll away. not because of the child undertaking according to se yet on the grounds that's obvious that she continues to be harping after her ex, so this relationship is on no account going to bypass everywhere. you assert you do not desire to lose her, yet if actuality learn you on no account had her because of the fact her heart has consistently been along with her ex. She is making use of you as her backup plan and you deserve extra desirable than to be the 2d selection reason have faith me as quickly as she would be in a position to be along with her ex returned she would be in a position to be there in a 2d and could not provide you a 2d look. i comprehend you're hoping that she would be in a position to recognize that she is extra useful off with you, yet to be truthful, i won't be able to see that going on. i comprehend dropping a infant is a terrible element of could cope with, even no rely if that's barely a fetus, yet t the 2d none of you're chuffed and the only way the two of you have a super gamble for happiness is to break up. ETA - you mentioned you had misplaced interest in each and every thing and felt depressed. that's an theory to work out a doctor, because of the fact it seems such as you are going to be able to nicely be coming up melancholy.
2016-10-17 02:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry to hear that. I would move on sounds like she does not care about what you think because she would not of had an abortion. You will find someone else who will want to marry you and have kids let her go
2007-03-02 02:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sheri M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mercy, why are you still with this person. It is clear from her telling you over and over that she wants to be with someone else that she does not love you. Even if you were madly in love with her, how on earth could you have a meaningful relationship with someone in love with someone else. Move on and find someone who feels the same love for you that you would feel for her. That is a relationship - two people who love each other. Not one who love someone who loves someone else. You owe this much to yourself.
2007-03-02 01:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by GrammieN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. Living with a murderer.. does that sound good? Run like HLL buddy and never look back. Btchs that get abortions especially when you WANTED the baby are little hitlers waiting to turn into big ones.
ABORTION kills a human. women that do it... are twisted, sick and not worth a moment of your time. Better off alone the rest of your life...
remember what she is capable of.. KILLING HER OWN FLESH AND BLOOD!
2007-03-02 01:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by kent j 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
walk away now...she wants the other man and thats why she did'nt have the baby...it was all foe selfish reasons...if u stay u will only be more heartbroken later....i'm sure ther is someone else out there for you.....you sound like a GREAT guy!
2007-03-02 02:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by tigermoondog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to her...ask her if she sees you in her future. Ask her why she feels the need to be with her ex. If you just talk to her and see whats on her mind...I'm sure youll find your answer.
2007-03-02 01:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by mommabear 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her immediately. Obviously, she didn't love you enough to keep the kid. I bet she would have kept it if she thought it might be her ex's.
2007-03-02 01:42:06 · answer #9 · answered by dwayman1978 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋