Okay, my cousin had a little baby on July 13. She was only 17. My dad was having s3x at 14. She was using protection and all, but somehow my cousin got preg. I really do think my cousin is one of the best (if not the luckiest) people in the whole wide world. My dad says it's her fault she's preg, but she's catholic, she couldn't get an abortion. He also refuses to call the baby by his name, calls him "it" and when I spend the night with my cousin and her sis, she said "I'll treat her like my own." my dad said "That's what I'm worried about."
Is there any advice someone can give me?
I don't love my dad, BTW.
2007-03-02 01:25:51 · 11 answers · asked by serenityfan76 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would just ignore your dad's nasty comments, or bring up to his attention that he's a hypocrite. since he was having sex at a young age, there could be another kid out there somewhere that's his. I would say fully support your cousin and her choice to raise the baby. Your dad needs to get some help, because he's having issues and he's not even the grandfather of the baby, so really his opinion doesn't mean anything. Good luck!
2007-03-02 02:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jyse 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, first off your Dad having sex at 14 has nothing really to do with this, unless he has a double standard in which he believes it's ok for BOYS to have sex but not GIRLS. That's ridiculous. So, assuming he's not ridiculous, what he did as a kid, in the past is the past, it's not a free ticket for you to do what you want and then say, "well you did it." And you probably know this. From a parent's perspective, it's scary to think that your child might have a child, cut short their opportunities and bring on adult responsibilties at such an early age as your cousin. But many adults are not capable of expressing their fears, so they simply ACT disapproving and SAY things that can be interpreted as unfair or mean. He does not want you in any way to think it's OK to have a baby out of wedlock at 16years old, that's why he's probably acting and saying those things. You can take steps to reassure him that you don't want that either, and maybe he will lighten up a bit.
2007-03-02 01:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your father doesn't have a relationship with your cousin and he doesn't want one either. You can have relationship with both without any real conflict. It's not like your sister got pregnant and he has to see her everyday.
If your relationship isn'tr that great with him, you will probably leave the house as soon as you can. Take care of yourself, support your cousin and be mindful of what your dad is saying. He probably thinks that his uncompassionate attitude sets an example for you to not get pregnant until you are married.
Unfortunately, most people in this world do not communicate well.
2007-03-02 01:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by David M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wrong of your dad. I was 16 when i had my first child, and i'm not ashamed of it. I'm 22 now and have two kids. I don't care what my parent's, uncles, or aunts have to say. I don't regret having my kids.. They are my world. Just don't even worry about it... Tell your cousin just to be a great mother and do not listen or worry about what people has to say....
2007-03-02 01:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell ur dad to get a life and ask him why he is so D A M N disrespectful, there never a reason for anybody to hate a baby, and his a moron call the baby it, maybe it's time to start calling your dad it and see what he says
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2016-10-02 06:19:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really confused by this, did your dad get your cousin pregnant.....try to be supportive of your cousin
2007-03-02 01:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by KP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to be honest there is no easy way to deal with that type of negitivy but sometimes it's best not to bring the subject up around him. he is probally worried that you will end up the same way and then he'll have to take care of you and a baby. not saying for sure but it could just be his way of tring to get you to not have sex at all or at least uuse double protection.
2007-03-02 01:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by tammed12000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DONT FULLY UNDERSTAND YOUR ??It sounds like you are saying your dad is judgeing your cousin for something he did himself.which is typical because he has learnt from his mistakes and wants to keep you from making the same ones that he now knows was a bad choice.good luck
2007-03-02 01:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont undersssstaaaaand what you're saaaaaying.
Your dad got your cousin pregnant?
Or your cousin got pregnant and your dad is unapproving?
Can you use some better constructed sentences and some easier to follow thought processes? Man this is frustrating.
2007-03-02 01:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋