What little things can get under your skin and make you get easily frustrated and or just suddenly blow up?
why do you think it would make you this angry? and do you try to fix the problems, as they happen, or just let them go?
2007-03-02 01:21:33 · 14 answers · asked by Rivka 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
For me...I don't like when people "follow" me around...like if I am grocery shopping..with a friend..and they are "right" directly behind me...Ooooh! I hate that! I step on their feet...and they tell me, "hey! watch it" uh,,, no, YOU need to watch it.!!!
Or, when somebody won't move...and they have a lot of space in a grocery line...or when somebody is complaining about either what you are buying or how much stuff you have...or and this happened years ago...in a Safeway line...w young woman with five screaming little kids...told me to "hurry up and get myself married...because I needed to have some children...and she had some..and I didn't!" I wasn't even talking to her...and she just said this thing to me! God!! Some people!!
(I listened..but, I was soooo red in the face...and I DIDN"T heed her advice....just because I wasn't ready to get married at that time!!! ya know?!!!??
2007-03-02 02:04:58 · update #1
i try to be as friendly as possible and treat people without judgment and all, but some things do get under my skin as you put it...
like un-punctual people, coming so late for a meeting or an outing with so much negligence and indifference, it gets to me because i am always punctual and i would like people to be the same at least with me, i do comment on them trying to fix such a behavior for next time...
another thing, is people criticizing my decisions, like career decisions or the way I'm bring up my kid, giving their judgmental opinions and negative remarks as if they are professionals although i know for a fact they are not, this gets on my nerve a lot. mostly i let those situations go unless i was in the mood for a fight :-)
nice question by the way, it makes you think...
2007-03-08 11:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nagging, definitely. I'm fine with knowing that you have a problem with something that I am doing, but tell me and let it go. Constantly nagging or continually reminding me goes just so far before I either block you out entirely or, without manner of politeness, ask you to stop.
When this happens I just have to assume that "you" (the person doing the nagging) are so sure that you are right that there isn't room for me to behave in a certain way or make certain choices on my own. Nagging invalidates me and my behavior -- causing me to believe I have to either retreat or defend myself.
Depending on the issue, I will either try to explain (shut you up) and defend myself from the barrage or I will shut you off entirely, ignoring the nagging, and erasing it from my memory as if it hadn't happened to start with.
2007-03-02 09:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by home schooling mother 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not having enough personal space. When my kids follow me from room to room while I'm cleaning or trying to get something done and don't let me have a second to myself I really get tense. If they don't let me alone--and they're learning it's in their best interests to leave me alone--I blow up and start yelling.
I know it comes from growing up with an overbearing mother who had no concept of me as an individual with privacy needs. She would search for and read my diaries and listened in to my phone conversations and walk in without knocking to any room I was in (including the bathroom).
I always make sure to take a little time for myself each day. Usually when my husband comes home from work I'll go for a walk, or make a phone call in a private room or just read a chapter in a book. It really helps.
2007-03-02 09:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ruth E 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't like a machine getting the best of me.
case in point:
Self scanning checkouts that intone things like; unknown item on checkout area,
please remove item and ask for assistance, and item not found.
I know when I've caused it, but too often, I didn't do anything and the thing is mouthing off!
I always think, "This is embarrassing!" and people are thinking, "What an idiot!"
I don't handle frustration with machines very well.
2007-03-08 23:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, it's crazy or stupid drivers. The ones who are doing 100mph and changing lanes back & forth on the highway. Also, the ones who do 55 mph in the fast lane on the highway and then blocks you in. People not using their turn signals. And people cutting you off is always a winner. People just don't pay attention to anybody else on the road these days.
2007-03-02 13:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a grown up human being you are supposed to ignore such small irritation and rather help others in getting their work done. In general, people get snippy based on their past environment in which they had grown. Rebuking by parents/family members / friends etc. or regular chiding by mother / father for social behavior or any other such reason can lead to such behavior.One reacts to such situations only when he/she is afraid of the things.
Therefore, please learn to have patience, and tolerance to ignore such things.
2007-03-09 07:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by sb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
money problems bills, not always having enough of it to get things done that need done, wanting to do things you can't afford to do, money problems can even cause your dreams to crumble at you feet , Stress From every day life can bottle up an short fuse u making you snip at people. Not much you can do for it just try to reax for a short period try to take things day by day and do what you can.
2007-03-02 09:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by dianemelloniemarlenejerryginder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't stand to hear people eat or when sales people bother when I'm shopping I fell that if I need assistance I'll ask for it. I do try to not let these things bother me but it doesn't work.
2007-03-07 16:05:16 · answer #8 · answered by rachel s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Working out makes me tense and irritable. If my husband chances to walk into the room while I'm bumbling through my "fun" workout tape - I let him have it. And then I can't finish the tape.
I think it's that I'm uncoordinated and working out makes me feel hideous and fat. I hate it. In fact, I'm getting irritated just thinking about it... and I have no idea how to fix it.
2007-03-02 09:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to fix the problem because it only gets worst with age, the problem is caused mostly from stress.
2007-03-02 09:42:16 · answer #10 · answered by h.tyou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋