i'm pregnant?

Question

i'm pregnant just 5 or 6weeks.But i'm not sure that do i have to tell my boyfriend. I been with him more than 3 years but we not really understand each other.
We always fight.I know that if i tell him then he will not let me abortionOr, i just keep secret and go by myself.Do i should tell him????

Answer 1

I know that this is a tough time for you. Do not allow yourself to be pressured into any particular decision. You sound quite young, please consider all the answers that are provided, ignor the idiots and then find a good person, removed from your family and friends to talk to. Friends and family alike are too close to you for you to know that they are making non-biased comments. I suggest that you call the Family Planning Clinic in your area and seek their advice.

Whilst I am against abortion (to me it should be the last choice, not a form of contraception.) it is your body and your life.
If you know that this is not the right time or the right father, then make the right decision for you. If you choose to abort the baby then do not tell the boy friend. It is your body! If that is your decision there is no point in complicating something that is so very difficult.

Before you make a decision either way make sure you can live with it!

When this is over learn from it. I know that I will only stay in a relationship with someone that I could see myself settling down with and making babies.

I hope that the above was some help and I wasnt judging and preachy. Best wishes for the tough time ahead. xx.

Answer 2

Well If you are fighting now , you'll probably fight even more after the baby. You don't want to bring a child into the middle of something like that. Children should only come if the relationship is already strong and stable. You don't want something that is going to tie you two together to argue for the rest of your life. Move on , get the abortion and some effective birth control and don't look back. Also, if you have the child he may be the type to deny paternity..........think about it!!! I really don't like abortion but
I feel nobody should judge a situation in which they have never been. I've been there. After I had my son , he denied it, I proved he was the father, we ended up breaking up , or course and now I'm lucky if I see a child support check because He doesn't visit and He doesn't pay!!! I love my son with every ounce of my being but I wish I would have chosen a better father for him. You still have time to decide. Good luck.

Answer 3

Wow, I know what you are going through. I got pregnant in college to a guy I was with for a while. He was the same way your boyfriend is. I told him because in all fairness it's his too and you need to give him a choice.



Here's what your baby is doing now: (5-6 weeks)

Your baby's length is now about 3 to 5 millimeters -- about the size of a peppercorn! The brain is forming three separate parts: the forebrain (memory and reasoning), the midbrain (translates messages from the brain to organs and limbs) and the hindbrain (regulates breathing and muscle movement). At this point the embryo is now three-dimensional and completely enclosed in the amniotic sac.

Your baby's heart is now beating and blood circulation is evident. The kidneys and liver are growing fast, and the neural tube, which connects the brain with the spinal cord, closes.

The placenta is rapidly developing. Upper and lower limb buds will appear this week. And the primordia of the liver, pancreas, lungs, and stomach are evident.
Trans vaginal ultrasound can pick up 86% of the fetal poles with heart motion, and 100% of the yolk sacs at this point.
Never for one second would I ever consider killing (murdering) my child. That baby that I loved so dearly is now my 5 year old daughter, Maliha. She is the smartest child in her class and has a smile than can melt my heart. I am married to another man now. He is wonderful and kind. We have a son together named Dallas who is 2. My husband was in foster care his whole life and said that he was glad his mom gave him up to be raised better by someone else.

Please reconsider what you are doing. I don't know what your religious background is, but if you kill your child you will not go to heaven. No matter what you do to try and correct your actions later. At least give someone else a chance at giving your precious child life. So many people are dying to have children of their own.


Murder is wrong. Pro-choice is wrong. Don't have sex if you can't handle getting pregnant and having a child. How old Are you? I am 26 now.


Give your child a chance at life...He/She deserves that chance. He/she already has a beating heart and their body and brain are growing every day.

Take care!

Answer 4

I don't recommend an abortion, there is always adoption you never know, You're boyfriend may want to help raise the child.

Just tell him strait forward. or ask him how he feels about kids... and I would say you tow start trying to understand each other...

I am against Abortion... but if you are going to do it, it needs to be a decision you both make... It's his child too.

Answer 5

well i hate to say this but i think you should tell him and if he wants the baby he does have a right to it. this is also coming from someone who does not believe in abortion so i guess you need to do what you feel is the best just rember there are so many good people out there that are not as lucky as you and i and they are not able to hve kids but want them very bad.

Answer 6

Regardless of whether or not you two dont understand eachother, he has a right to know. Talk to him about it, maybe you'll find that you both actually agree on something for a change. Dont keep it a secret! Its wrong and you'll feel guilty forever!

Answer 7

You should tell him about the baby. It is his child, too. You created this human being out of love that you share. If you don't want the child, there are millions of families that would adopt.

Answer 8

you need to tell him he has a right to know and i wouldnt recommend abortion you could give it up for adoption if you dont want it because theres many people who cant have kids that want them badly and you killing an innocent life is very sad remember to think before you do that because its something your gunna have on your shoulders the rest of your life...i hope you make the best decision and god bless you...

Answer 9

tell him, its his child,too. if hes not supportive- you don't need him and why would you want to?-but he does have the right to know. maybe he will be supportive and surprise you. its OK to be scared, but if you've been together that long and still don't understand each other, what are you still doing in this relationship? but ultimately, this is your decision-your going to be the one to get up w/the baby, give him love, raise her and support her, this is too bad and too sad.

Answer 10

You need to tell him about the baby, and make a decision about the baby together, rather to give it up for adoption or to raise it together