And--what kind of person does this????
2007-03-02 00:49:47 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Ignore it and rise above it, they will soon get bored of it.
2007-03-02 00:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
(ANS) I think you basically have two choices here:-
a) Ignore the wispering campaign with the hope it might burn itself out or just go away (but that may only make things worse if the person spreading the lies or rumours doesnt get the response they want? i.e. to hurt you or upset you??) So this is the tough it out with a brave face approach.
b) if you know who is doing the spreading of the rumours or lies you should confront them about it. This takes alot of courage but may well work and may well be your best option. why? because then you can show that your NOT going to stand by and let other people believe rubbish about you. Its a tough appraoch but I think its the best one as it shows your going to be assertive and stand up for yourself in the situation.
**Whispering behined another persons back is done because the person concerned isnt brave enough (is actually a coward) to say such things directly to your face. why? because if such things were said to your face you could easily counter them or scotch them as lies in a few seconds.
**Sadly, being totally two faced is a national sport here in the UK, except most of the time its not done with malicious intentions.
**There may be many reasons or motives for talking about someone else behined the back, it could be just a simple case of jealiousy even. It could be a case of trying to hit back against you for something very trival, it could be an example of the office politics or just the bitchy chemistry of these particular people? Sometimes its very hard to know why though.
Ivan
2007-03-02 09:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very insecure and weak person does something like this. Try to ignore it. If it gets worse, confront them, in public. Ask whats up, then when they try to say nothing and walk away, ask them specific questions about what you have heard. No bully or gossip likes to be "outed". You will not make friends of them, but it may get them to realize you are no pushover.
2007-03-02 09:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by biscuitperifrank 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to head of personal for help if you can or see your boss for help and nip it in the bud, usually its some one who is jealous of you or what your doing. i had it myself at work , some how in their small brains they thought i was getting more money then them. which was no way !! as it happened i got a new car , it was the same colour as the company colours ,so i told the no.1 whisperer that i was being given a company car now. !! they believed it !! ha ha took 3 months before they realised that it wasn't. end of story
2007-03-02 09:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know who started it and what it is all about. stand up to them when there are lots of people around.
start saying what they are saying about you.
i did that once and there was loads of people there and that person didn't say nothing back they just stood there embarrassed and then the whispers stopped. people will start to see you differently and respect you more.
if you don't know who started it just ignore them don't sat anything about the whispers and then they will stop
2007-03-04 10:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep the option that in alot of countries workplace bullying and harrassment are illegal, and the employee can be fired etc...I would keep this up your sleeve, and if it becomes too bad utilise the legislation-compensation etc can be awarded.
2007-03-03 23:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a similar problem, i found out who the main instigater was and in the tearoom in front of everyone i asked him what he was talking about, considering he was lying he tried to lie his way out of it, then others whom he had been saying these things to started to confront him as well. he was completley discredited and now has no credibility within the company.
2007-03-02 09:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront them with the information you have,nip it in the bud,or it will wind you up.Obviously they are not very well.Oh and keep a diary,if it contiues
2007-03-05 16:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by RAINBOW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lower yourself to their level - thats how grown up bullies act. Maintain your work ethics and it will show others that you are a better person.
2007-03-02 09:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always felt if they were talking about me, they were leaving some other person alone, so forget it. They don't have a life of their own so they want a piece of yours, jealously its called.
2007-03-02 09:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋