He will not have sex with me anymore. It's been a year now. He says he loves me. He pulls away when I address the issue. What is going on. PLZ HELP.
2007-03-01 23:58:21 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Something has changed....maybe his health, his weight, your weight, him seeing someone else, your looks, maybe he is punishing you for something.
My girlfriend told me she hasnt had sex with her husband for a year now...because she is punishing him
2007-03-02 00:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by Grogan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he can pick the therapist but you two are going to marriage counseling about this issue. Tell him that if he won't do that (and give him a deadline), you are out of his life.
In the meantime, hire a private detective to watch him for a period of time. Get as much documentation as you can (photos, etc.) about what he does when he's not with you. I'm guessing he is getting a little something outside the marriage.
If he's not, then that is good information for you to have, too.
He might be gay.
Second, but not less important, consult a divorce lawyer - say that you see an irreconcilable difference looming - if it can't be solved by counseling, then it is irreconcilable. Tell the lawyer that you just want some advice about how to protect yourself before you even make the first step in a divorce proceeding. Then listen to what he or she says and do it. Do it while there is still a slim chance for the marriage, not when you are distraught and all hope has vanished.
Your husband has backed you into a corner and he knows what he is doing. He has frozen you out and if you act on your frustration and seek a lover, he will divorce you or just plain leave you - either way, he'll make sure you have nothing. He knows it's a matter of time before your marriage dies of starvation and he wants you to be the person to leave it. If he leaves it, he's at a disadvantage. If you leave it, all the blame will be on you.
Be very suspicious but give the counseling a chance. Either way, be prepared.
2007-03-09 06:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easily i cant imagine of any reason he does no longer opt for sex --- in spite of if he now no longer loves you in spite of if he's dishonest (im no longer declaring they're real) then he would nevertheless opt for sex with you ---- youthful adult men (i become one once and believe it or no longer i'd nevertheless like to have sex daily with someone who needs me ) opt for sex each and each of the time --- on a daily basis a minimum of two times an afternoon is magnificent --- contained in the morning once you awaken and then at evening ---- to be in a position to no longer opt for sex says he has extremely severe complications medical complications which will opt for him to work out a well being care service ---- if he wont communicate about it then there is no longer something you need to do about it --- even as i dont believe sex is the completed relationship is area of a healthful relationship and if he's not starting as a lot as then you definately possibly you need to no longer be mutually --- although the position you'll discover someone who's not merely being concerned and thoughtful yet in a position and prepared to have a healthful sexual relationship is a puzzle ---- you've 2 selections --- both he opens up and also you make certain your complications or you split
2016-11-26 23:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you start thinking he has some problems you have to do a self introspection - You have go through the past and try to understand his changed behavior. OK go flash back in to those times when you had a happy sex life. Try to list things that might have caused these changes in him.
Sample questions
* Did i gain weight ?
* Am i looking older?
* Did he know about my relationship with Mr X?
* Do i have bad breath.
* How good is my personal hygiene- Do i keep my sexual organs clean
* Was he satisfied sexually with ?....Does he like Oral , Anal...etc?
* Did i any time insult him while having sex?
* Have i tried identifying his sexual fantasies?
* Had sex become a kind of monotonous habitual thing when he stopped doing it.
*?
*?
etc.....generate as much questions as you can.....take weeks to do this.
Then once you generate an Exhaustive list of problems that might have killed his sexual interest in you.Sit and analyze the information you have ie the answers. Try to identify any mistakes that has happened from your side.
I assume that you guys still sleep together........Don't request sex..............try to Arouse him don't force him in to sex...some men don't like that. You have to do things like join him during his bath.....help him and request help ...and eventually get to his private parts and pamper him ....make him feel like a king......Give him a massage .....do get creative ......may be you have become too mechanical and man like.....you have to awaken your femininity .....you have to transform your self in to passionate woman........May be you are too independent....but make him feel that you need him.
Take things more in positive sense.......such times are common in life......and its the skill of the woman that comes to rescue the relationship.........In every husband and wife relationship sex is a very important ingredient not just for the pleasure alone .....it lubricates the relationship.
Dont give up ...keep trying .....Good Luck
2007-03-09 06:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by biju5555 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there could me many reason as to why ... but he only knows the real reason. You need to open up to him by telling him how you feel ... because he doesnt want sex with you and by the sounds of it how much you love him and are willing to work through it with him no matter what the problem is ... and allow him the time to answer you ... if he wants you to know he will tell you .. if he doesnt .. then you have to make a choice ... to stay with him without sex and an unanswered question or to move on ...
2007-03-08 22:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by Millii 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be something going on with his health and he may be embarresed by it dont push the sex issue just give him time and maybe when hes ready he will talk to you about it and please let him know your not going any where but you are there to listen.If every thing else is good dont worry.Love is much more than sex.
2007-03-02 00:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by acr_lover 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. WHat would happen if you just go and start light foreplay and maybe give some extra attention to "Mr. Adventure" and see if there is an issue with it... Does he have a medical problem like high blood pressure? diabetes? I say just go and seduce him... If you dont get what you need maybe you can mast. in front of him or have him join in to help you mast..?
2007-03-09 10:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by *G* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is either a physical problem or he is feeling low and not in the mood.
I would talk to him in an understanding, caring way asking him what's wrong. Don't be too pushy or moan because this will stop him from opening up.
Tell him whatever the problem is, you'll help him fix it.
2007-03-02 00:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by LauraMarie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be getting it somewhere else. He may be depressed. Or he could be having erection problems. If he won't discuss his problems with you then you need to move on. But if you really love him, then try to get him to open up. But a year is a really long time, so something must be going on. Good luck.
2007-03-09 08:14:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something is wrong and he must not be attracted to u nomore becuz no boy would pass sex up or either he is tired of doing it with the same person. I hope u didnt have sex with him everyday becuz eventually they get tired of it and it become something they just do and not special.
2007-03-09 06:41:45 · answer #10 · answered by SWEETIE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to be a barer of bad news, but it is eaither because he does not find u sexualy appealing anymore, he has met a better shag, he has an STI, or he is going through a transformation from staright to not so staright, or he just does not love you any more. Just dump him and move on to some one who is mad about that sexy body of yours.
2007-03-02 00:29:41 · answer #11 · answered by Wanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋