To make story short my coworker/friend has caught on the clues that there's someone else involved in their relationship. Although they're in the process of getting a divorce, he still loves her and feels it's too soon for her to start seeing some one. Should he follow her? What are the consequences?
2007-03-01 23:56:22 · 14 answers · asked by vbdork_22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
they are getting divorced, and she is moving on... if he LOVES her, he needs to tell her now...
2007-03-01 23:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not his decision to make. I'm sure he's hurt that she has moved on so quickly.
I'm assuming that she is the one that filed? If it was him, and he follows her and gets caught and says that he wants to be with her, she's isn't going to believe him and think that he is just saying it because he saw her with someone else. If he thinks that there is reason not to go through the divorce, then talk it out, but in no way bring up that he thinks she is seeing someone else.
My opinion.....the consequences of him following her are her thinking that he's psycho. Probably a yelling match to follow and probably hurt any chance of remaining friends or civil to each other afterwords.
If he really truly has to know....why don't you do it for him?
2007-03-02 08:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by jlonva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should get out of her life, they are in the middle of a divorce and its none of his business who or if she dates. His controlling of her may have been what turned her off to him in the first place. He is going to have to take his 'love' for her somewhere else since if he follows her or keeps annoying her she can file for a restraining order and who needs that on their record? And whats he going to do if he finds her with someone else? they are already getting divorced, so nothing is left to say but good-bye.
2007-03-02 08:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by justa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they are getting a divorce, he has no say as to when she can move on. Strongly influence him to let it go and move on with his life. She could put a restraining order on him for stalking her. If he does follow her, he will only find out what he already knows. She has a right to move on. So does he. Tell your "friend" that you are there for him. Get him out of the house and on the way to creating a new life for himself.
2007-03-02 08:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by cakekweeny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The consequences are that he finds out what he already knows in his heart and he does not gain a thing except pain. If they are divorcing, what difference does it make that she is seeing someone. He need to grow up and smell the roses. What did you tell him?
2007-03-02 08:00:24 · answer #5 · answered by regina s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they are getting a divorce, he needs to let it go. it's not up to him to decide who she sees or when she gets to start seeing him. sounds like he's a bit of a control freak. maybe that's part of why they're getting divorced. also, if he starts following her that could be considered stalking and he could be in some legal trouble if he gets caught.
2007-03-02 08:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by fungirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are already in the process of divorce, I dont think he should follow her. Regardless if he loves her or not, they are no longer together. He would only wind up getting more hurt if he knows.
2007-03-02 08:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by mlock123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should mind his own business. If they are in the middle of getting a divorce then, he should move on as well!!!! If they were still together, then, it would be another story.
2007-03-02 08:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he still cares he needs to tell her. If not then he's doing it for other reasons. NO he shoudl not follow her, it's no longer nay of his business. As for someone else involved in THEIR relationship, it no lopnger is theirs is it?
2007-03-02 08:00:22 · answer #9 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't waste time following her. Do that and he's going to make a name for himself as being a stalker.
2007-03-02 08:20:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're seperating, it obviously didn't work for him. He can get himself in a lot of trouble following her, legal trouble too.
2007-03-02 07:59:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋