I read some answers on bedtimes and was very shocked. ( years old up until 11 pm? Professionals have stated children need anywhere from 10 to 12 hours of sleep at night. Going to bed at 11 pm and getting up for school at 7 am is 8 hours. Does the kids go right to sleep at 11 pm? Most likely not, even less sleep.With kids up this late, do the parents spend anytime alone together without the kids awake and walking around? Do you still have romance in your relationships? Or are you going to bed at 1pm and getting up at & am with the kids? Something seems wrong with the answers on how late kids are allowed to stay up. One answer was good with saying letting kids be awake should be with them not them alone watching what they want or doing what they want without looking at what is going on. These kids up until late with little sleep, are they getting up in the morning ready to go, having a good breakfast, that you made not them and you see them off? Or is the kid still asleep and hunrgy?
2007-03-01 23:42:46 · 16 answers · asked by life is good and bad 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I have 3 boys, the 5 and 6 year old go to bed at 7:30, then they are asleep about 8 PM. They have to get up for school the next day. On weekends we let them stay up until 9PM. My 20 month old goes to sleep at 8:45, this way he sleeps a little later in the morning, so I can focus on getting my older two off to school, then focus on feeding and taking care of my youngest. My theroy is, they should have enough sleep that they wake up on their own before I have to go get them up. They are usually awake 15-20 minutes before my alarm goes off, that way I know their bodies got enough sleep.
2007-03-01 23:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were foster parents for 15 years,and our children ranged in age from 5-16....by 8:30 at night after working all day and spending the evening making dinner, helping with homework, and getting them ready for school the next day.. I needed some down time. The kids took a bath, were read a goodnight story and were in bed at 8:30. The teenagers stayed up until 10:00. Following a schedule is good for all of us...life is uncertain enough, having some discipline at home will make a difference as they grow up and have their own children. Too many children are told they are the center of the universe, and that's not realistic.
2007-03-01 23:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by imask8r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, Professionals don't know MY kids.
My youngest daughter, 9, can stay up until 11 pm. She doesn't, 9:30-10 pm is her bedtime. But, my oldest daughter, at age 9, needed to be in bed by 9 pm.
My alone time with my husband has nothing to do with when my kids go to bed. I have a bedroom of my own. My husband and I have different body clocks and schedules. I'm a night owl, and work until 11 pm much of the time. But I do get up at 6 am to get him and the kids off to school.
2007-03-02 01:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 8:30 bedtime with lights out at 9:00 is a good idea for children aged 9. They have a few minutes to read or just relax and then bed. This gives them 10 hours sleep and most 9year old are fine with that much. Our 8 year old goes to bed at 9:30 but her Dad doesnt get home until late so we eat late. Also she doesnt have to get up until 7:45
2007-03-02 00:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say for others, but for me, I can tell you.
My parents allowed me to stay up until 11 or midnight, often. BUT I had a terrible time getting up the next morning. I whined, fussed, missed a lot of school, especially on Mondays after late weekends. My dad would complain that I was such a pain in the morning, but never took the TIME and EFFORT to make me go to bed. You can't do both. You shouldn't.
My kids go to bed at 8, they are 6 and 10. They get up fine in the morning and have lots of energy all day.
My dad lets my neice stay up too. I think it's a PA thing, lol. She misses a lot of school, she is a horrible wretch to wake up every morning. She does horribly in school as I did, because she isn't refreshed, not to mention not making her do her homework.
It's sloppy parenting in my opinion. Parents think "Oh man, 8 oclock? It's still light out! All the good shows come on at 8." Or "9 oclock, they aren't even tired! Who would be?" But its just a matter of changing the rules, giving them expectations and making them stick to it.
I think a lot of parents would be shocked if they saw how different their kids would be if they got a good night's sleep for a while.
2007-03-02 02:00:26 · answer #5 · answered by WriterMom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use this to go by, children need at least 9 to 10 hours of sleep, teens 8 to 9, and adults 7 to 8.
2007-03-02 01:56:36 · answer #6 · answered by sidekick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 5 and we have him in the bed for 8 pm usually. I have to lay by him to get him to sleep. He is hyperactive and it is hard to have him fall asleep on his own.. his mind loves to wander. This is going to be difficult after his baby brother gets here in April. But I will have the whole summer to get him in a good sleep pattern. I know it is hard for some parents to get home from work and settle in and find time to get the kids ready for bed.. we work for our children way to much.. and it is only getting harder these days. I will have to start working again in June and do not look forward to it at all.
2007-03-02 00:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the kid go to bed and read at 8:30 and have lights out at 9:00. His/Her eyes will get tired and she will fall asleep easier.
2007-03-02 08:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jenna F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was sent to bed at 8:30 PM at the latest. So yeah I'd say 8-8:30 PM is fine.
2007-03-02 05:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Older children should start getting ready for bed around 8:30 and in bed by 9.
Not only do they need their sleep, but the parents need their "adult time"!!!
2007-03-02 01:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by sierraskyesmom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋