Ok so ive been talking to this guy alot. i REAL like him hes so cool, what do i do? im lost am i bisexual or not??we talk for so long on the phone he knows alot about me.i know alot about him.we have feelings for echother.what do you think? can you help me out?cus i realy like him and thats a good thing. but when i see a girl i dont know.like i sed im lost..help..
2007-03-01 23:36:07 · 16 answers · asked by xo 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
for the thered answer yes ive had a 3 sum.yes i like it. but it think its ok to be lost right now..im 19 so i can still think about it....
2007-03-01 23:46:56 · update #1
I think that it is okay to like both....but, perhaps you really have to think about what YOU as the person who wants to get into a possible relationship...wants...what do you truly want,and with whom?
2007-03-01 23:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by ladyk 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
go ahead and go with it. you may find that once you're face to face, you start asking yourself, 'what was i thinking?'
if you don't, you are in my opinion, not bi but, instead, gay.
of course, i might feel that way because i am a straight female and in my mind, you would be totally gay, as i certainly would want nothing to do with you sexually. so to me, yes, you would be gay, please?
the problem is that if you decide that you are bi, then, in your future relationships with women, you either have to find one who could accept your self-definition which would be hard (because it would never be right not to be honest about it with your future partners) or, lie and cover up your activities on the sly, which would be a terrible thing to do to someone and possibly really hurt someone, cause you guilt and preclude you from true intimacy and friendship. either way, i think you're shot at that point. so, as i said, if you decide you are bi then, please, just be gay.
call me a bigot. call me what you will, but i think most women think this way. it totally turns my tummy to think of my partner ever having been with a man and lying about it would be unforgivable.
the point is that regardless of what so many have posted back to you, this isn't a 'do whatever feels good to you' world. sure it might be while you're unattached and not wanting to form any deep attachments to anyone. however, hopefully, your life won't always be that way and you will want more out of your relationships eventually. if you eventually choose a woman to be with, they will have a very hard time believing that you could ever change or, let go of your 'bi' ways.
just a word of caution - not intended to ruin your fun or, demean the way your are feeling by any means.
good luck to you whatever.....
2007-03-02 08:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bisexual means you would have a physical and chemical reaction, arousal, in the presence of members of the opposite and the same sex.
If you are sexually attracted then it is possible that you are bisexual.
It is also possible that you are misunderstanding your own feelings. You say you don't know around girls. That suggests you may need time to find yourself first.
2007-03-02 07:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by Chali 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You go out with him and enjoy yourself. Don't worry about identifying where you sit in the range of sexuality. It's a waste of effort and the definitions of the three words (straight, gay, bisexual) are too narrow to encompass everyone, anyway.
Only do what you are comfortable doing and only with who you want to (at the time). The rest is of no import.
2007-03-02 08:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if you have feelings for guys and girls then you could be bi sexual, experiement to see how you truely feel. I don't really think it matters what you are, you don't need to lable yourself. Be proud of what you are. Hope your feeling a bit more positive, your last question worried me ! Email me if you want ! Good luck x
2007-03-02 18:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by Madness 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why not live in the moment and let go of worrying about labels. If you really like him, explore that further if U want, and if any issues develop, deal with them.
2007-03-02 07:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by njyogibear 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you enjoy being with women and with men, then you're bisexual. Stop making life difficult.
2007-03-02 08:02:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have a woman as an avatar. What's the problem?
2007-03-02 07:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
of course your bi . its ok most guys like that and its not wierd at all. just be yourself and do whatever feels right.
2007-03-02 07:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by askmike 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
you could be like a 3 dollar bill.
2007-03-02 08:40:21 · answer #10 · answered by booge 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋