I just did like 5 different types of home pregnancy tests and they all came back positive (plus 2 yesturday! lol) It's a really bad time for me to be pregnant, my husband and I broke up (he was abusive) and so there's no chance of us getting back together. I haven't been working cos i only just left to start to find a place and a job. I do want to keep the baby, cos i always wanted a family, and I know eventually everything will work out. I am scared right now though and i dont know what to do. the job i was going to do is very physical, maybe i should look for secretarial work instead. that kind of thing. should i be moving house, lifting alot, getting divorced all at the same time.
2007-03-01 23:31:08 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
as long as there is no complacations with the pregnancy than the every day life hassel will be fine for you,as far as the job it doesnt have to be secretarial work lots of women work physical jobs everyday pregnant.If your husband was abusive to you then just remember he would more than likely be abusive to the baby to so keep that in mind,And as you travel down this road remember that you do not have to be in an abusive relationship to make it so that you can keep your baby,there are programs out there that will help you,you could probably get a medical card to help with the DR and hospital bills,wic to give you milk & stuff while you are pregnant,and they will give the baby formula after it is born,and welfare would help you so keep your head up and pray about it.It will all work out for you in the end!! Goodluck and congradulations on the baby!!!
2007-03-01 23:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it happens it happens, God has his reason and in the future this child may be the best thing that's happend to you. I'm soooo sry about everything you're going through, does your mom or someone live around you that you're close to? Maybe you can ask them for help, they should understand, especially a female. I think you should keep the child, or give it up for adoption, don't get an abortion because it's not the childs fault. As for the job, since you have a chance to change the job right now do it! You're in a good position to pick something that will totally fit you while being prego and everything, so seriously take the chance, not everyone gets that option. You also can try some pregnancy hotline or something. Goodluck!! God bless!
2007-03-02 00:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lorelei's Mommy ( & prego) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well darling this is a bit of a mess your in hey!! Ok just from other peoples experiences on abusive partners.........once an *****ole always an ****ole!! Do you think if you let him come back that he is going to treat you better?? It shouldn't matter whether your pregnant or not do you feel now like you could spend the rest of your life with him?when you where with him did you feel safe or most importantly happy? Take a look at yourself and your needs first of all?? How many weeks are you?? Have u got time 2 think this through?? Make sure you get out there and get a job something that you will enjoy before you start to show that belly off!! Get yourself together, single women are strong women don't play the victim anymore!! Empower yourself. I hope everything works out for you.I feel for you make the right decision for you. x x x
2007-03-01 23:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by stephanie f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down all this stress is not good for you or for the baby. The baby feels all the tension and stress you are under.
Firstly - WELL DONE to you for getting away from your abusive husband. This was not an easy thing to do and you must be a very strong- willed, courageous person to have done that. If you have got through an obstacle like him, you will also come through this one. You - if any thing will be stronger as you will have to do it for your baby.
The person who said that men change after a child must never of been in an abusive relationship. Discuss it with your husband if it will help but do not go back to him. Talk to your family & friends explain what you are going thur. They will be more than willing to help and support you in what ever way they can.
2007-03-01 23:48:32 · answer #4 · answered by JINKS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very last thing you need is an abusive husband to be a father to your child...so don't listen to the guys who say get back with him...that's total rot.
You know, you have your back in a tight spot, but lots of women have, and were able to keep their children. You sound like a mature and intelligent person, so yes, find yourself a job that's secretarial and will allow you to get your feet under you. Do you have family or friends that can help you? You might be surprised how supportive they can be....
and don't forget to be kind to yourself. You've under a lot of stress but you will pull through.
Good luck!!
2007-03-01 23:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by imask8r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no no that is too much stress for you right now get a job where you can sit and relax and that offers benefits something that you can get paid maternity leave so you are not out money ask a family member to help you out or a couple of big guys that can do heavy lifting you need to stay off your feet and stay away from your husband i was in an abusive relationship when i was pregnant and i lost the baby at 7 months because he beat me you need to think about yourself and the baby you will land on your feet again just be careful and stay stress free
2007-03-01 23:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband, let him know that you're pregnant. coz he may find you some years later and we wouldn't want him to think that you cheated on him.
Anyway, I bet he still has some love for you deep in his heart. He may change after you tell him that he's going to be a father. Guys do change... they become little softies =D Try and make it work, it will benefit your baby. But do not put up with his abuses, he can do the same to your baby.
Your taking way too much stress! Relax! Hope everything works out for you!
Take care and enjoy life! All the best!
2007-03-02 00:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by Trisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats' a tough one. I would not recommend anyone to live in abuse. You deserve better. I would rely on family and friends to help you out right now. Tell them what is going on, and that you are at their mercy for help. You want a better life for your child and you. If you are use to lifting things it won't bother you. Just don't do anything out of your normal. I was clogging for 9 months because I had been doing it for years.
As for you hubby. Get him some help, on his abusive behavior. Don't stay with him until you see a change in him, I mean a real life long change.
My x husband would change long enough to win me back them in a few months it would start all over again.
Best of luck to you and your baby.
2007-03-02 00:00:45 · answer #8 · answered by ladybugjan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure where you are located but if you have a company near by called The Crisis Pregnancy Center, they can help you with all of that. The ladies there are so sweet and they are great with emotional support. Because you don't have the support you need, they can help you with decisions that will be good for your new life. I know you must be scared but just know that God is bigger than our thoughts and he is able to carry your worries and help you through if you want him to. My advice for the best emotional support, "Crisis Pregnancy Center." Call them if you can. You will feel so much better... I will pray for you...
2007-03-02 00:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by gimojore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing for you to do is CALM down. stressing about it will make it worse, especially if you decide to keep your baby. i suffered a miscarriage 6 months ago and i put it down to too much stress, i was also moving and so i was doing alot of heavy lifting before i found out.
the second thing, you need to think about how your husband will react if he was abusive, he may become angry if you tell him. think about what you want to do before you tell him your pregnant. if you are going to keep your baby then he needs to be told eventually. but don't put yourself through unnecessary stress.
finally once you have told him, if you do. surround yourself with people you love, people who can protect you, and people who will support you.
you must also decide that when you have your baby, he has a right to see the child. but if you think he is an unsafe person to have around your baby, then legally that is your choice, if you can prove it.
good luck with whatever you choose
2007-03-01 23:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by obsessed_with_yoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋