before you jump all over me, this is totally her idea. I'm up for it, but it is HER idea.
We have no idea how to get this started. I'm not here looking for volunteers, just info on how some of you may have meet interested women.
2007-03-01 23:18:05 · 24 answers · asked by webbrew 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not looking for haters or peole accusing me of being a liar. we are together 20 years. its been her wish to do this for a long time.
2007-03-01 23:25:31 · update #1
Its funny how people project their own insecurities and hang ups on us without knowing anything about us. We have been together for nearly 20 years and are very secure in our relationship. Its just something she in particular wants to try.
2007-03-02 01:52:55 · update #2
Go for it. It's fun. Just don't do it with a close friend. It causes way too much tension. You need to find a discreet person willing to become your friend with the intention of a 3some. You all should get friendly and comfortable with each other first, Then you will know when it's time for the sex act. And no.. It's not so easy to go into a club and find an extra. You will probably have better luck with an on line swingers site or such. It is very important to lay down the boundaries before hand... who can and cannot do certain things. Be very specific with your partner and the extra so that there is no tension between you and your wife afterwards.
2007-03-01 23:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by N I K I 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is really cool that you both are looking to expand your sexuality. But you both need to discuss it at length and what it may lead to...meaning will it be a fmf? or a mfm? or mfmf? or moresomes.... I have engaged in many of the above as a single male, and have met many couples who play in this lifestyle very happily and without jealousy for years and years....and i think they have a happier and more fulfilling marriage ...and life...than most people. I hope it works out for you.
2007-03-02 02:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Bball F 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's kinda weird. Maybe you should reevaluate your marriage. Maybe she's turning gay. I don't know but I would be so jealous seeing my bf in bed with another chick, if I'm there or not. It makes no difference, I think it's cheating. But if you are SURE that you both want to do it and are willing to accept the consequences, then I say go for it. I would let your wife choose the other person. Or take a swing around the block tonight and search the corners.
2007-03-01 23:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well ! thats amazing that she's keeping all this in heart since 20yrs and not yet materialized.But one thing nice that she want 3some with you..Look in my opinion if she desire for this and u too feel that experience as amezing then go on......but with most probably unknown one.So that the 3rd one can not interefere in ur relationship.In fact it feels me glamorous that she has expressed it to you....You must be having good bond....Many times i think of same to have my neighbour (lady)with us on bed but could never express this....and dont know what will happen if i expressed she(wife) will never be with me in bed again? or say ok ? dont know.? but the thoughts r spicy...and risky too...
2007-03-01 23:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by sandie.n 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just because there are some things that we want to do doesn't mean that we have to or need to do them. As we all know, people have many different want both good and bad, and just because we want to do something doesn't mean it is the right decision. Think deeply about it because it is your decision.
2007-03-02 03:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by earen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's a really good idea. You may have second thoughts after you do it, and then you can't take it back. What if your wife gets really jealous seeing you with another woman or vice versa....All I'm saying is, weigh your odds. Is your marriage stable enough to handle that?
2007-03-01 23:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by Whitney S 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I imagine you would look in the personals in the newspapers etc. I have a question for you what if your wife likes the woman more than she likes you. How will you feel then?
2007-03-01 23:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by holly 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As much as the idea is appealing, it is very dangerous and could spoil what you have with your wife.
I would ensure you would feel comfortable if they ignore you while they explore each other, and that regardless of what she said, she is really up for it.
Is she bi-curious or knows herself to be bi-sexual? I am not raining on your parade, but how will she react to you enjoying another woman?
Just get the ground rules up front and know what her motivation is, and with any luck enjoy, enjoy, and enjoy.
2007-03-01 23:30:36 · answer #8 · answered by Rational Thought 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
DON'T DO IT!!!! This may be her fantasy, but if you guys do this, it could cause alot of problems in your marriage and cause trust issues.
As someone who's been involved in that stuff, and speaking from personal expirience because it almost destroyed my marriage, my suggestion would be DON'T DO IT!!!
2007-03-01 23:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Has she told you the third party is a guy yet?
As much fun as it sounds, it's probably not a good idea.
2007-03-02 00:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋