2007-03-01 23:14:14 · 19 answers · asked by GAS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ideally you should love them both equally! However, you and your child have a special connection, they are your offspring and your flesh and blood. A caring parent loves their child unconditionally, however this isn't always the way with spouses. Try not to worry about who you love more, its not a contest. Some people may fall out of love with their partners and there is little you can do about that but having a child can put a strain on any marriage. Suddenly you have priorities other than each other (I don't know how long you have been married, or how old your child is). If you still care for your wife, try and rekindle some of the spark. Make time for each other without your child and do things you used to do like go out on dates. Try to love her for the qualities you fell in love with her for and for being the mother of your child, whom you evidently adore. Try not to quanitfy love.
2007-03-01 23:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by ell_073 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's Natural. you still love your wife as much as before, maybe even more. Kids are special and the love you have for them seems like it's greater, but it's a different kind of love. and if you think your love for your kids is great, wait until you have grand-kids. There are many kinds of love in a family, enjoy them all.
2007-03-02 07:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by jason t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my daughter more than my husband and I know my husband feels the same way. My daughter is the most important person in our lives and she always will be. Please be aware it's not like my husband and I don't love each other. It's just a different kind of love when it comes to our kid. I often told my husband that if we got into a car accident or something and I couldn't get out to make sure he saves our daughter before he saves me or visa versa. I feel my daughter's life is more important than my own.
2007-03-02 08:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by snugglesrn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to feel this way,don't feel bad about it.At least you still love you're wife.You're gonna be with you're wife for the rest of you're life and spend time with her when the kids are gone.Things in you're life with happen to make you have an even closer bond with her.I love my kids more than life its self and I've been married for 18 yrs.
2007-03-02 07:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by mygrandparentsrthebestintheworld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you know it should be the other way, then work your way to make it happen.
Your wife is first, and the kind of love you have for them both are different.
2007-03-02 07:18:55 · answer #5 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I think your kids should be your number one priority because you and your wife made them together. Hopefully you are in love with your wife and want to take care of her and make her happy still, but loving your kids more than anything doesn't seem bad to me.
2007-03-02 07:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by crackermelons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah!
That happens and it is absolutely normal to do so.
You'll have to differentiate between love to your wife and love towards children.
Children automatically attract love and attention because they are .... well.... little angels. They are soft, sensitive and fragile.
With respect to children, love is multiplied with the coating of added feelings (instincts) like "protection of progeny", "kindness" and "sympathy".
And, with respect to love towards your spouse... here's what I can say....
#1. Your love (earlier) could have been partly love and partly lust.
#2. Once your lust was satisfied, you began to feel you are not loving your spouse that much.
#3. Love has got a greater meaning -- and one of those is sacrifice. Just sacrifice a little someting (a few minutes, for example) for your spouse and let your love get re-kindled.
Enjoy.
2007-03-02 07:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by gnaan-yoga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my kids more, I don't see the issue here. Don't get me wrong, I love my wife, but I love my kids more in a different way.
2007-03-02 07:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't necessarily have to be the other way around.
Children are precious. You have a different bond with them than you would with your wife.
It's not such a big issue, if you become unbearably unhappy in this marriage then re-evaluate where the two of you are right now.
2007-03-02 07:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is ebb and flow and as each day passes your feelings are not always the same you choose to be "in love"
Just be honest with your mate and true to yourself and you will find the what works for your family
2007-03-02 07:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by pokey's gumby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋