my wife gets hit from me (with a warning b4 i do) everytime she doesn't obey what i know she should have to do for the good of us as a family. now i feel tired/bad hitting her and i have decided to give her the authority/responsibility to control our family but i'm not happy with that. please help
2007-03-01 22:15:13 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thanks guys
2007-03-01 22:35:53 · update #1
please continue answering/sharing. it lightens my load
2007-03-01 22:55:57 · update #2
You're an idiot for even hitting your wife.
She's not a dog to obey or disobey you. Haven't you ever heard of free will.
I'm glad you gave her authority over the family so she can hit you in the head when you disobey her.
2007-03-01 22:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
So, did her daddy die and give you the authority to order her around and "punish" her??? Her Daddy must not know because he should have flattened you by now!!! You are NOT her parent and do NOT have the right to expect obediance from her as if you were her parent. As a grown woman, she has every right to disagree with you. It's called free will. Most people have it. Married folks can disagree without resorting to violence to get their way. Hitting is the response I would expect from a toddler throwing a tantrum because they didn't get their way. Obviously you have control issues and feel threatened when she challenges your "authority." In a good relationship, based on mutual respect, nobody has authority over another. Do yourself (and Her) a favor and get counseling before she gets smart and has you put in jail.
2007-03-02 00:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by sunnygirl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you should not hit your wife as she isn't under your lock and key. Secondonly it is domestic violence because you are trying to control her. She is her own person. I feel that you have a problem and should go to an anger management course and counsellor and sort yourself out before the law does and before you loose everything. It is a wise choice a person can only take so much. Do the right thing and get some help now.
2007-03-01 22:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need help, and you need help today. Dont you know you are assualting your wife and you could go to jail if she ever pressed charges against you? Noone deserves to be hit, and your children dont need to grow up in that environment. A marraige takes 50 50 to make it work. How would you like it if someone hit you? I hope if you dont get the help you need she packs up her and your kids belongings and leaves you.Also you are putting all the burden on her for taking control of the family, if she does something wrong then you will hit her again. You should get help and all the control should be created equal between you both. But you need help for your anger and I hope you get it today before you lose your family, or end up in jail for domestic assault!
2007-03-01 22:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by helen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You must have had a terrible upbringing to think this is the right thing to do. There is absolutely NO reason for you to hit your wife. I think it would be best for you both to have a break from one another if you can't stop. I would also recommend you see your doctor as well as taking part in anger management. Your behaviour would be placing a great strain on your wife life, how do you think she would view you? And how do you think this is affecting her?
2007-03-01 22:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by strawberry_fairy_6 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
properly there is rather no could desire to be jealous - and undesirable blood will basically placed your son interior the midsection. That stated, youre no longer the only guy or woman to experience jealous because of the fact of an ex. however the certainty is that all of us (with any luck) tend to income from our final relationships and for this reason make changes to accomodate our new ones. I cant say I havent thought greater desirable than as quickly as "Geez, why couldnt you have been like that with ME?" - yet I consistently could desire to comprehend that we on no account rather could have been that way with one yet another. If we had stayed mutually he wouldnt have found out something and neither could I. Thats the element approximately maximum relationships... you on no account rather learn something till after the fact; looking back. And besides you have been the two youthful then and have for the reason that performed some turning out to be up. who's to assert back then he wouldnt have been scuffling with together with her till 4am too, ya be responsive to? So dont take it in my view. Its alright to correctly known which you're feeling the variety you do and its completely favourite, yet interior the long-term it isnt healthful and basically permit it bypass.
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2007-03-02 04:38:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get help! You never hit your spouse. You will never be a kind or successful person if you continue to hit her. The only thing you will be will is a hateful person. Your wife also needs help!
2007-03-02 00:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by snugglesrn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn yourself into the police for battery, it's the least you can do, you vile pig. Women deserve respect, not violence. Pick on someone your own size, and when you do, I hope they beat the living day lights out of you so that you know what it feels like. You have no right to even call yourself a man.
2007-03-01 22:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have to learn to control yourself and your own temper before you can expect her to respect you and your authority to run the home....a person will never give any type of control to you, if they do not first respect you and they will not respect you if you are hitting them
as a wife, I respect my husband and let him decide a lot of our decisions, because he loves and respects me and he is so loving and kind that it makes me want to let him make decisions as the head of the house...however we talk about things together and make decisions together..sometimes his idea is the best way and sometimes mine is...we try to go with whichever one is going to be best for the family, it does not matter whose idea it was, as long as we are doing what is best for the family...you have to work lovingly together and no one can be right all of the time...it is a give and take not a control thing in a relationship
2007-03-01 22:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋