by ex of something I did not do. He is telling people out there about something that is simply not true and my name is being tarnished unjustly. So far I have ceased any communication and changed my phone number but it wrankles. To write stating my side (which he may not read) .....would that be interpreted as defensive ? or simply leave well alone and try and get on with my life? Really annoys me tho that he is out there as the good guy.......he simply is not that......what should I do?
2007-03-01 22:04:51 · 17 answers · asked by eagledreams 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is he trying to hurt you? This is a very defencive action sometimes taken by someone who has been dumped. Did you dump him and now he just wants to hurt you in any way he can? I know it's hard but try to rise above it, not being bothered will wind him up a treat. I don't know what he has said, if he is accusing you of doing something criminal then report him, if it is just something like sleeping with someone else, you'll just have to ride with it, people will have someone else to gossip about tomorrow.
Your real friends and your family will know you haven't done it, as for the rest, who cares!!!
be strong and don't let it bring you down.
2007-03-01 22:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by Nickynackynoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Mog, you sure did not tell us what it is that your ex was shamelessly spreading about you. i gather it ought to be a shameful thing for you not to bring yourself to mention it or is it simply an oversight? however, i do not think that you need to change your cell phone number let alone cease to communicate with anybody from your past as that could be read as a sign of guilt of which both of us knew is not true, right? since, you had changed your phone number i think there is nothing anybody can do about it or is there? could you retrieved the number? If you can please do so. Nevertheless, do not worry yourself so much about what your ex has to say about you provided, your conscience is clear about what happened between you. I don't think he worth your worries unless you still care for him very much, in that case you could find means of communicating with him in other to let him know how you feel about him as well as to find out why he is spreading such rumours about you. Point it out to him that it need not come to that, if you ever meant anything to him in the past, he would have respected yours feelings even-though you are separated now.
in all please, try to be calm as you prepare yourself to follow the new path thats open before you. Cheers and have a lovely day.
2007-03-01 22:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is real truth to the old saying, "the best revenge is living well". He is slamming your name to bring you down and if it were me I would just have to refuse to let him know that I even acknowledged his existence. He wants to get under your skin and that's exactly what he is doing. Don't respond to his bs in any way form or fashion. If someone tells you something he has said try to laugh and act like they are the idiot for believing such a ignorant character. Be above him, and let it show! When you go about your business and live like life is great, he will look pathetic and his gig will be up. I know its hard to do but it works. You have to be proactive not reactive, that's what will show who you really are!
2007-03-01 22:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To give any response either way would seem as if you were trying to defend yourself. Which would infer guilt or exceptance of his story about you. Ever heard the old proverb: One must learn to walk alone before running with others? Say nothing hold your head high and know that the truth will come out... It always does
2007-03-02 00:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by twoangel2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you put it behind you. Anyone that is a friend will either not believe the lie or at worst will not care.
You know the truth and to be honest the oly person you need answer to is yourself. Ignore him and all that he says and he will slither away as the cowardly snake he must be.
Sticks and stones do hurt, but the truth will always come to the fore and heal all wounds.
2007-03-01 22:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by Rational Thought 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ignore everything he says about you. You know the truth, and what goes around comes around.
You will have your day, and I hope you enjoy every minute of it!!
He is probably hurting deep down and lashing out the only way he knows will hurt you. It just shows how immature he is and that your so much better off with out him.
Go and get yourself a real man and dont look back!!
2007-03-01 22:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Ignore him and DO NOT engage in conversation with him--no speaking, SMS, letters, e-mails, nothing.
2. Do get on with your life. If people ask you whether what he is saying just say: "No, it isn't true." Shake your head and shrug your shoulders. You don't need to explain anything to anyone. It will just get back to him and make things worse. Just repeat this over and over until it becomes natural and everyone has heard the same thing each and every time.
2007-03-01 22:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by Alea S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people know liars. If he is lying I'm sure people that know him know he is a liar. I'm sure he lied before and will again. He is rallying his troops to win the he said she said war. It wont get you back and makes him look like a jerk.
It hurts to have someone say horrible and bad things about you. Be they true or false. Go rally your troops and have them make you feel better.
He is a jerk for saying anything about you and that is why he is a EX. His actions should make you glad you are rid of him.
2007-03-01 23:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jeanine G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't write anything, can always be saved and used in court in the future if he wished to...I am afraid there is nothing you can do except state your version of the story when it comes up...He is your X, he is upset because he no longer has you...You were his and now you are no longer...He is trying to earn respect of others by trashing you..The same has happened to me for the past 8 years...Just keep your chin up and get on with your life...Don't settle for just anyone this next time...Learn from your mistakes and plan on being happy for the rest of your life...Words are just that....WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND., and those are the words I live by, because some day my X will pay for all he has put me through....
2007-03-01 22:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being very immature,sounds to me like he's still in love with you and don't want anyone to have you.You should ignore him and all of his remarks,because he's doing it to get under you're skin and he's winning.Don't let it bother you cause people that know and like you know how you are no matter what he Say's.If you're getting upset and showing this around him.It feeds the fire even more.And he will leave you alone if you don't let him bother you.
2007-03-01 22:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by mygrandparentsrthebestintheworld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋