How do you get over someone you still love?

Question

My Silhouette.

I thought I had recovered.
I thought everything was all behind me.
until the walls began to speak.
& my heart started to skip every other beat.
just thinking of you.
your smile.
your laugh.
everything you were to me.
now i'm overshadowed by visions of blue and grey.
a dark sunlight cast over mine.
your eyes looking down upon me.
& i stop and wonder.
what were you to me?
yet i just walk along.
continue the same old path.
another soul to be shattered.
another tear to be shed.
two years have passed but you're still here.
in my mind.
in my words.
you follow my each step.
fog the cold of my breath.
never to vanish in my sight.
you're my silhouette.

Answer 1

I really liked what you wrote....... thank you very much for sharing it.....

I'm not sure what you need is more time - 2 years is plenty of enough time already to get over someone. Perhaps a little different Perspective may be of help.

It sounds like you & this guy, are not meant to be together - which means no matter how your heart deep down may wish for it, He is not the One for You. You must learn somehow to accept this reality.... Reality is telling you every day, that He is not the One.

There IS someone Out There who is Right for you (or at least Better for you). But the more time & energy you spend dwelling on your Lost Love, the less likely it is that you'll be able to see and accept New Love.... new Love which wants to Love you, and is waiting to offer its Gifts to you, as well as receive the great Gifts of Love that you can give to it.... and you have many, as your writing clearly reveals.

You may think by still Loving Him, that you are being true to your Love, .... but actually, you are moving farther & farther away from Real Love. The spirit of Real Love would let him go... this is what he wished for himself, so this is what you should wish for him, also.
This is what real love would do - it would wish others well as they continue on their journey through life.

Let go.... - and let go, in the spirit of love... because you love him, because you love your Self, and for the sake of love. Instead of burying the pain & putting "everything behind you," have you truly let go & wished him well with all the love of an open & full heart? If you have truly let go, the silhouette would not be following you so....

But there are a few things that you can take with you.... you can take with you the Gifts that he gave you.... the times you spent together, the love & joys you shared together, and yes, even the pains & sorrows of loss..... all those things & more that helped you become a more loving person.... you can take those with you. They are a part of you now, and forever will be..... but do not let them become All of You.... which they are not. Take what you have been given, what you have received... and bring it forward with you so that All your Loves in the future will be better for it.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Focus on all the negative things about that person and Find someone new to love. Works every time.

Answer 4

Being hurt for a while is how you'll get ove that someone. It worked for me. I still miss that special person, but life goes on, and you can't keep waiting, you have to move on.

Hope you'll make it.

Answer 5

Can you recall why you broke up? That will help you get over them very quickly!

Answer 6

You get over it,just like everyone else does.

Answer 7

i dont think you ever truly get over anyone you love i feel that you learn to live with it !! good luck

Answer 8

There are bigger fish to fry

Answer 9

You don't. In time your wounds will heal.

Answer 10

Niceeee . :-)
Thank you.