My husband and I have a strange relationship neither one of us was really attracted to eachother when we first met nor did we really love eachother when we got married, we have children we like eachother everyonce in a while. We both tick echother off eqally. He has no inner dialogue and I usually keep what I think to myself unless it is fairly annonimous. But at times I am glad he voices his opinions because he sometimes says what I'm thinking esspecially while driving usually about other people. When I think about the idea of dating again I cringe. I have children so I have met my clone quota for my lifetime and the fact that other people sometimes completely tick me off and creep me out. I am not sure if I really care to search for greener patures despite the fact we do tick eachother off, but I doupt we would be happier with other people. Is it possible in some saddistic way to be happy in this type of realationship?
2007-03-01 21:39:20 · 11 answers · asked by Vivianna 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sure it is....sounds like most marriages and I applaud you for being honest and stating your true feelings. After so many years of marriage most couples do look at their relationships in the same exact manner as you...I believe in your own way you are happy. Your happiness is different then other peoples , and you know you are quite content with your husband now. I think you and him love each other much more then you realize...Good luck and enjoy the grandchildren when they start coming...
2007-03-01 21:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A platonic relationship is a love relationship but has no sexual desire. You asked if it is possible to just want this in a marriage. I can only say these type of relationships have their positive and negative side to it... it really depends how long you've been married too. The possibility of either you or him is open for another type of love to come in... and that could be true love with all the sexual desires included. Great topic to debate on.
2007-03-02 06:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is possible. Focusing on the little things, those details that he does only for you... it is difficult, but if you want to stay with him I think you can learn to be happy with him and he might notice that he can aswell.
Those every day things that you don`t really have to do for him might show him some affection, that you care, and maybe just a nice comment from him might make you feel like you`re in heaven. The idea of the possibility of making a new start with someone new may be the trigger to your doubts.
But, if you`re not happy with him, end it. Give it just one more try and think things over.
2007-03-01 21:50:08 · answer #3 · answered by Babadoo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
confident its achieveable. I do think of, however, that throughout that undertaking the buddy has to comprehend that because of the fact her platonic buddy is married there might could be some obstacles with connection with the style and quantity of time she spends with the guy. In different words, such platonic acquaintances shouldn't do something like bypass away for the weekend to the mountains the way the guy might along with his male acquaintances. Platonic acquaintances - sure. relationship precisely the comparable as friendship with acquaintances of the comparable intercourse - not somewhat, upload some actual looking and considerate (and sensible) obstacles to eliminate ability problems of one variety or yet another.
2016-10-17 02:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, just stop focusing on what bugs you about your husband. It's normal for everyone to be annoyed by those they love sometimes! It doesn't mean you don't love eachother deep down. Focus on what you like about him. There's got to be something.
2007-03-01 21:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible to have a plutonic relationship if that is what you both want. If you are unhappy then leave it sounds like your unhappy. I would never stay in relationship that I made me miserable.
2007-03-01 21:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you met your match, why would you want to change it. You are both happy with the way it is.
2007-03-01 23:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most marriages become like that after a while, even if its love at first sight.
2007-03-01 21:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No use running after a mirage.
2007-03-01 22:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A successful marriage is just what you have, being able to get along with someone after your tired of having sex with them.
2007-03-01 21:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by summit_of_human_intellect 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋