I have been working in my new job for just over a year now. However during this period understandably I have made new friends, and due to the fact that the department I work in is made of people on the whole a good 20 years older than myself, I have become good friends with the one member of staff close to my age (she is four years older). At the start we were very good friends, we both made the time to talk to each other, and get to know each other. We were even at the point where we would only go to work nights out if the other one was going. However I came back after the Christmas holidays and she was all of a sudden very off with me, however we sorted it couple of weeks later, but she never gave a reason why. Then last week she starting have "time off" at short notice, and then took a week and a halfs leave. I was informed later by my boss she had taken the time off because I had upset her, which I have no idea how I could have done?
2007-03-01 21:36:05 · 3 answers · asked by The syd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have had both experiences. Successful co-worker long term friendships and ones that went exactly as you stated. I would say simply move on. Who knows what is going on with this person and their life. You tried to be a friend and this person got strange on you. It happens. Take a deep breath. Dont let it ruin your paradigm.
2007-03-01 21:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I never make "real" friends with anyone I have worked with, especially in an office. Going out at night with a coworker can lead to personal issues being brought to work. Sounds like that is what happened here for you. Who knows what the person's real issue is. Keep it professional and conversation limited, saves your job in the long run.
2007-03-02 05:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are putting to much into this work atmosphere. Work is where you work and I personally do not form personal relationships at work. Sounds as though your co-worker is having some issues. I would not worry about it or take it so personally. Whisper a prayer for her that God will guide her through and leave it alone. Place it in Gods hands and leave it there. And stop forming personal relationships at work, work is work and pleasure is pleasure away from the office. God bless****
2007-03-02 05:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋