I got married for the completely wrong reasons I never married for the sake of love, but I have one child and another on the way from the marrige one with a heart deffect, but they are both a joy to me. If I never got married would I be happier or better off or would I miss out on everthing I love about my children despite the fact my husband and I do not love eachother very much?
2007-03-01 21:06:24 · 9 answers · asked by Vivianna 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know life is complicated and even if you did marry for the RIGHT reasons you might still be feeling the way you are. I think the others are right, focus on what you got going for yourself. Be honest with your spouce about your confusion. However, take care of all three of them since you did make that decision. As long as your husband is not abusive or anything, then you have achieved what some may never ever get! Be happy with the large things and don't swet the small things!
2007-03-01 21:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by immune01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound a bit sad... I don't ponder these sorts of things, because my life is not bound by my mistakes only by my choices. Instead of living in what could've been, why not live in what can or will be. You aren't a passenger in life, you are the driver; life is what you make it and what you want it to be. If you want more out of life then go get it, it's never too late. Your children deserve to know the happiest person you can be...
Good luck.
2007-03-02 05:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be dead if you didn't go down your current life path..... Who knows what would be best for you. Sounds like you are looking for some meaning to your existance. There is one & you have complete control over whether you are married or not. As for the children, well they will always be with you & you are very blessed to have them.
2007-03-02 05:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sister. love isn't something that comes upon like a thief in the night. IT is a choice. You can choose to love your hubby. Even if it is just for your kids sake. It is all worth while. Choose to love him today. You chose to marry him, now choose to love him.
2007-03-02 05:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by amanda b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As my mom used to say "woulda, coulda, shoulda, it's to late now you made your choices."As you said you have babies that give you much joy, how could you want to change that?
You choose the life you lead, if you don't like it change it, or improve it. You can't go back,but why would you want to you become the person you are by your experiences.
2007-03-02 07:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by pokey's gumby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it doesn't matter now does it? Leave the past in the past. Personally? No, there's nothing I would change and it's silly to think about. Thinking like this leads to depression.
2007-03-02 05:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of the marriage, in the long run it will be better for the children and the best for both of you
2007-03-02 05:26:12 · answer #7 · answered by Taylor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R u uncomfortable with ur present life? If not enjoy it and do not bother.
2007-03-02 06:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personality
2007-03-02 05:09:30 · answer #9 · answered by gf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋