I'm 16 years old and female, im still a virgin. is there something wrong with being a virgin at 16?

Question

i know im the only one out all my friends who is a virgin. everyone keeps telling me that it will happen, i just don't think that boys will like it if i tell them im still a virgin.

Answer 1

thats cool! nothing wrong with that what so ever! no need to worry, the boys would like & respect you more as you dont sleep around. don't rush it to anything like that, its all when your ready!! :)

Answer 2

I guess maybe things are different now than they were when I was 16 (I'm almost 24 now), but I can tell you that most of my friends were virgins until well past 16 lol. There is no shame in being a 16 year old virgin, trust me. Trust me, once you get out of high school, you will find that guys will actually LOVE that you are a virgin, because there are very few left, as you can tell from your friends.

In my opinion (and I'm not religious or anything), it's good to be a virgin up until you are at least a senior in high school. I believe that it's like a bell-shaped curve when it comes to virginity, similar to grading on a curve. 50% of people get C's, 20% get B's, 10% get D's and F's, and 10% get A's.

I believe that for virginity, the 50% percentile is between age 17-19. Anybody losing their virginity in that age range is generally normal and isn't going to have any major virginity issues lol. If you lose it between 15-16 or 20-21, you may have some issues later on because you were too young to understand it, or you waited too long and made it too big of a deal. If you were under 14 or over 22, you may find that you waited waaaay too long and it's now a big issue in your head or that you didnt wait long enough and you've formed sort of an addiction.

Hope that helps or at least makes sense! Good luck! :)

Answer 3

I think that there is nothing wrong with you. If being able to say "I am not a virgin" is the only reason you are looking to have sex then there may be something more serious going on emotionally for you. I had a friend in highschool, she was absolutely gorgeous, smart, very popular and guys loved that she was a virgin. They had a lot of respect for her and she had a lot of respect for herself. Also, it used to be women used to worry about getting pregnant if they had sex....now there is a worry that they will contract an STD...one that may prevent you from having children in the future, those that don't ever go away...and even those that have the potential to kill you. Does that really sound like something you want to risk just to say "I am not a virgin". And what happens if the person you sleep with tells a gazzillion people or even tells just one wrong person and then you are called a slut or whore? That would not be too fun either. I think in the end being called a virgin is a much better option. Having sex unfortunately is not taken very seriously or treated as special any more and has not for many years. I am only 28 and feel very strongly about this answer to you. You are only 16 and have plenty of other mistakes and lessons to learn b/w now and true adulthood...don't make the mistake of having sex at too young of an age. I know at 16 I thought I knew it all, thought I was an adult....thought I was emotionally ready for anything. I was mistaken. I wish I would have waited, I wish I would not have done certain things b/c I thought they made me cool, or made me more mature/more adult-like.....I wish I had just made some decisions in my teen years that were b/c that was truly what I wanted...not what some boy wanted, my friends wanted or what I thought would keep me popular. Sometimes you can be popular in not such a positive way!

In a nutshell: you are your own person. you do not need to do anything you are not mentally, physically or emotionally prepared to do. also...my dad once said to me and it still rings true EVERY DECISION YOU MAKE IN LIFE HAS A CONSEQUENCE...SOMETIMES GOOD CONSEQUENCES, SOMETIMES BAD....WHEN MAKING DECISIONS IN LIFE YOU HAVE TO BE PREPARED FOR EITHER CONSEQUENCE...IF YOU CAN HANDLE EITHER AND FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOUR DECISION THEN MAKE IT AND STAND BEHIND IT.

Answer 4

Hey, there is nothing wrong with being a virgin at 16, you should keep it that way until you meet the right boy. Have all you friends really done it or are they just trying to look cool? It will happen, so don't rush and don't be pressured into doing it with a random guy, there is some one out there for everyone.

Answer 5

There is nothing Wrong with being a virgin at 16, 17, 18, or whatever age you happen to be. If you are not ready for sex and all the responsibilities and consequences that go with it, there is no need to rush into it just because every one else is doing it. Any man worth having as a husband is willing to wait. Believe me I know. I never let friends or boyfriends pressure me into having sex. I had sex when i was ready to, and it was the best decision i ever made.

Answer 6

Not at all! Do you know that all of your friends aren't virgins for sure? Sometimes people say things just to fit in or get attention. It will happen at the right time, and you'll know when that time comes. Don't rush anything, you don't want to have regrets! What about pregnancy? STDs? Those things are REAL, they DO happen! Condoms aren't 100% effective and some viruses like HPV can go right through the condom! Boys should respect you more if you're still a virgin, that's something to be proud of. And if they don't like it, then screw them! (Well, not literally of course!) If they don't like you for who you are then they don't deserve you at all. Don't be pressured into anything, I know it's hard but in the end you will be much better off if you are patient and use self-control.

Answer 7

Hey,
I wouldn't worry about being a virgin at 16. It's a beautiful thing to be a virgin. You shouldn't give away that precious thing to anyone but someone you really really like. You don't want it to be a bad memory. I myself lost my virginity at 14. It's one of those things in my life i regret most. I can hardly remember who he was, and i didn't even like him, but i wanted to be "part of the group of big girls". No boy should ever not like yu caz you're a virgin. If that's the case, he's no good. A boy should respect you, in every way, also regarding your sexuality. Sex is fun, but precious and intimate. It's best to do it with someone you feel comfortable and intimate with. Most of the times the first time actually hurts and when the boy you're with isn't gentle or respecting, it's a bad experience. So my advice: don't worry about what others say, and wait until you're truly ready with a guy that you really like and who really likes you for you, and not for what's beneath your clothes.
Take care and when it comes, whether at 17, 18 or later, enjoy.
Maité.

Answer 8

My sweet young woman, your virginity can only be giving to a man once. Make sure that once is with the man you love. Make sure you understand what love is. It is more than just sex.

Find a young man that understands and truly appreciates the gift. I suspect you will have to wait to find such a young man. At 16 most young men are just sex crazed and don't give a damn about relationships that aren't sexual. Wait for a young man that wants more than just sex and wants the sex to be second to the friendship. BE PICKY!

There is nothing at all wrong with being a virgin at 16, 25, 30 or 50. It is a personal choice to wait for that special someone.
I say to not follow the crowd takes quite a bit of courage and discipline. More power to you, hun.

Answer 9

Don't be worried about being a virgin at 16. I am pleased to hear that you are. Kids now these days are pushing themself into a sexual relationship when they are not ready. Honestly, I would be looking at a couple of more years. 16 is to young.

On more thing, Do you believe all your friends have had sex. I don't know your friends, but I will put money on it that they have not.

Answer 10

No way theres nothing wrong with it at all! You seriously need to wait until you know its right..even if it only feels right at the time. You only get ONE first time. You dont want to regret it. I'm 23. I lost mine when i was 18 and I still think I should have waited a little longer..maybe? I don't know..but theres nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age. Dont let anyone pressure you.

Answer 11

it's the other way around boys will stand in line for a chance to get a virgin.......don't rush life, it's too short and being a virgin now and days is cool