She's a manager at the moment and she said she used to be a 'sex phone line'. Now, she wants to do dominatrix. I don't know whether she's being genuine or is telling me for shock value. She sits opposite me and wonder if it's just for something to say. What should I do? I don't really want to get involved really.
2007-03-01 20:54:18 · 12 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
What we need to do is one night before you go to work, I will come over and you can tie me up. Naked would work best dominatrixes love that. Then you can invite her over and we will see whether she is all talk or she's all action!!!!!!
2007-03-01 22:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by tiemetight814 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a form of sexual harrasement and bullying. I would tell her to change the subject and that you are not interested in that subject. If she keeps on about it, then I would seek guidance from your Union representative or if you do not have one, speak to her Manager on the quiet, do not make a formal complaint at this time, just seek assurance that someone else will talk to her about the problem. If this fails then write a letter to the Line Manager concerned, personnal department and the person explaining the harrasement and that you are not prepared to live with it any more and request a formal meeting to discuss the issue.
If this fails then the only other course to take is one that will be stressful for all concerned and make a full complaint to your company over the issue and that you demand to be moved, or she to be moved and that you are no longer prepared to put up with the issue.
Normally the first instance will stop someone, especially if you want to remain friends.
But seek further advice from any Union colleague at work, you will have someone there, even if you do not think you do.
2007-03-02 05:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by Kevan M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get this into your head: She does not want you to be 'involved'.
She just wants to be honest or dishonest&joky-shocking. No matter which. Your job is to get on eith YOUR job & life, and to try not to say anything nasty or too judgmental about her inclinations. Ok?
2007-03-02 05:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by profound insight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her, don't let what she says shock you, maybe she is telling the truth, so just act as if she was talking about any other job.
2007-03-02 04:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just humour her. Dont be so afraid of talking, she probably wants to be your friend. I never feel in charge of the girls I supervise I treat them the same in between directing them. I am as friendly as I am with the others at my level.
2007-03-02 05:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by babyshambles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could go all prim and proper about it, and feel uncomfortable - or you could look at the funny side and laugh your head off. When you think about it, it is quite funny!
2007-03-02 04:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by mad 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you better say something quick theres been quite a long pause lol just say cool!
2007-03-02 04:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that that is not your cup and tea and to not involve you in it. If she is making you feel uncomfortable then report her. This is a form of sexual harassment and you are not at work to put up with this.
2007-03-02 04:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
She's just an attention seeker!
2007-03-02 06:22:25 · answer #9 · answered by Bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just nod your head and say, "Really,you don't say?" And just leave it at that. "hmm, interesting"
2007-03-02 04:56:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋