2007-03-01 20:37:00 · 36 answers · asked by Honey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe it is probably hard for you babe as he probably regrets the whole thing (or says he does) and promises he will never do it again and you will believe him.
He is lying though and playing mind games on you to forgive him, its hard to stay mad at someone who is begging for forgiveness but you have to stay focused and remember what he has done, keep it in mind that if you stay you can guarantee that it will happen again.
If you have no where to go there are women's refuges that will look after you until you get on your feet.
Don't stay with him please your life is worth more than that.
Good luck xx
2007-03-01 20:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all fine and dandy for people to say call the police or leave; what about the victims who can't leave? By this I mean, my ex husband took my wages straight from my account the day I got paid. I had to tell him what I spent, how I spent it, what change I was given and what I bought, even down to bread and milk durring the week! He even designed a form...... I also was hundreds of miles from my family, so with no money and no-one to turn too it's difficult. I was fortunate and didnt actually recieve a full blown beating, but I did feel his strength and hands on me alot. I had to develop a strong, trusting, loyal friendship with someone I could trust for just over a year before I asked her to help. She put me up for the first crucial week, untill I moved back home with my mum.
So it's not as easy as it may seem, even more so when children are envolved too. My advice would be to find a way to go out and do it, just dont go back once you've done it, promises from the person to change are meaningless, they are a way to get you back.
If I did it, then so can you, given the right time, place and circumstances, you will find the courage and the help you need, just trust in others.
2007-03-01 21:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by Need_to_know 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you have kids take them and go! Once a man hits a woman something changes in their heads and they never stop and your life will be a living hell. If you feel that the attack was serious enough for you to report your husband you should go to the police. Depends on how you feel about the situation as this is really difficult to decide. This a situation that will change all the dynamics of your married life so be very careful
2007-03-01 21:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by pixienaefaebanff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was beaten up by my husband, certainly I would move out of his life because wives are not there to be beaten up by thier husbands. Women have their own dignity and self respect and I think they should maintain it. They should not allow their husbands to beat them or insult them in any other way.
I would simply leave him and move out.
2007-03-01 20:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the police - that is ABH (actual bodily harm). he deserves to be locked up for that.... if u don't do something about this, he will think that he can get away with doing it again without having to face any consequences for his actions. personally, i would never give anyone a second chance to do that to me - next time it could be a whole lot worse...... please, get the help that u need. the police should have details on counsellors, and if u need somewhere to stay, they will also have details on refuges for women. i know that's probably not where u want to end up, but it's better than ending up in the hospital with a broken nose, or maybe worse.... personally i would rather try to rebuild my life from scratch rather than risk another day living with someone who doesn't respect me or love me enough not to hit me. there is no excuse for violence, and it's not your fault that he's like this. get out whilst u can !!!
2007-03-01 20:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK... what would I do...
1) call teh police.
2) take pictures (of any marks he left or objects he broke)
3) get medical attention (to see if you are ok)
4) file for a restraining order (you can get one for free)
(start some sort of counseling)
5) file for divorce
(continue counseling)
MANY different organizations pay for counselors for women that have been abused. They also help with shelter, clothing, finances, etc.
Group counseling is REALLY good for peopel who have been involved in abusive relationships....
Here are some links on Domestic Violence AND on local community services. I am also including links for child support and divorce. (You didnt mention if children are involved.)
Good luck.
2007-03-02 13:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer Anne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it happened now I would press charges for assault. BUT that said it did happen years ago and I kept quiet and stayed.....I know the fool was I. I did threaten to walk away and the last time he saw I really meant it and it never happened again. Never easy.......to judge from outwith a situation. Do I regret staying ....yes sometimes I do......but most of the time get on with my life.
2007-03-02 02:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him immediately and go to a safe place - (parents, friends, shelter) - then consult a solicitor and the police asap with a view to instigating criminal proceedings. Make sure evidence is obtained - photos, witness details, hospital records etc for the court case.
2007-03-01 20:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by mad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im a guy so ill answer in what a women should do in a woman standpoint.
beat the crap out of him until he cries mommy.
but really don't be stupid and get into that situation. If a person hits once he'll hit twice.
2007-03-01 20:45:22 · answer #9 · answered by Jadeite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would call him an ambulance due to him needing it after I got up from his beating me.
I always say : You better make the first hit count for if I get up, you will be very sorry.
: )
2007-03-01 21:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Kitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋