2007-03-01 20:32:30 · 10 answers · asked by kimberly m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just ask him what does he think about marriage in general and see what he says. You might not want to marry him after you hear what he says.
2007-03-01 20:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, well.... depending on the person that may be impossible to do it without scarring him. But, that does not mean you can not tell him. There is no "best way". You'll get varied answers from person to person and none of them may suit your situation or boyfriend. You know you're boy friend best. I believe a great way is to be in a place where it is solely you and him. There are a variety of settings you could use, but use a nice comfortable one and maybe be doing something you both enjoy doing (besides sex, never a good time for a man to be asked during sex! LOL), and causally ask him how he would feel about marrying you and go from there. Of course, there is always the direct approach and just straight up ask him if he wants to get married. I think timing is very important as well as setting and mood. But most importantly is to use your understanding of your boyfriend. Do not worry about scarring him off. If he bounces at the sound of it, then you don't want someone like that anyway.
2007-03-01 21:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by blazinwulf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how long you've been dating. If you've only been going for a few weeks or a month or two, you'd probably spook him.
Also, how well do you know him? Have you had some intimate conversations about stuff like this? Have you talked about kids? Religion? Politics? I think it would be wise to just talk about it in general at first, something like, "I'd like to be married one day and have kids." I would not come right out and tell him that you expect him to marry you. Major no no and you'll probably scare him off.
Just take it slow and start out in general terms.
2007-03-01 21:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, how long have you been with him? I've heard some guys get told that like 3 months into the relationship and then the woman goes off wondering why he dumped her out of no where! If you've been dating at least a year, it's perfectly acceptable to bring up that you want to spend the rest of your life with him. After a year of dating, you must have talked about marriage in general at least once! Besides, if it scares him off, you're better off not marrying him.
2007-03-01 20:42:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a timeless, tireless issue between men and women. You dont tell him its what you want, you probe to see what he wants. And honestly having married before. Marriage doesnt define your relationship anyway, love does.
2007-03-01 21:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound it out to him that its about time you both get married. Hear him out and take it from there!
2007-03-01 20:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. If he's not ready, you have to respect that but you also have to discuss the possibilities as a couple. Good luck.
2007-03-05 16:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why shud the subject scare him?
2007-03-01 21:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i guess that u should ask him first if he likes u then if he loves then tell him if he lovs u enough to understand how u feel then tell him how u feel!
2007-03-01 20:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by W m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you both ready?
2007-03-01 20:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by strange-artist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋